guys, i need you opinion...

Philippines
April 15, 2009 3:19am CST
I just notice that most of the guys when the relationship is new they tend to tell their significant other I love you often but as the relationship mature they tend to say it rarely. Why is it so guys? is there any reason for this so that we gals would know about it? For my fellow gals, have you noticed this as well or is it just me... LOL.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
16 Apr 09
hahaha I am wondering too. I hope we can get some ideas from the male responders here of what really is their reason? Are they bored of saying it? or is the love all go away after being together for long? Suppose to be, sweeter as the years go by?
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
That is true my friend that is why i am curious as well that led me to start this conversation. It could be that as the relationship become more secure so both parties tends not to say that much. Happy mylotting my friend and thanks for the response...
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@sanuanu (11241)
• India
16 Apr 09
Imagine I am your prince(Well, I would love to but ...). Well, would you not be bored by hearing same thing again and again and again? I mean we human needs different dish every day for eating! How can we hear same thing again and again. The second thing could be that as the relationship grows older, people tend to start have strong believe in their partner and thus the frequency get lower. How many times a child tells a mom, that he/she loves her after 18-20 years!?!
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• Philippines
16 Apr 09
I definitely understand what you are trying to say and I agree with you. I would prefer to hear it rarely and sincere that having to hear it often but doesn't have meaning at all and at times it becomes an obligation by saying it at the end of every call or before going to bed. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this and happy mylotting!!!
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@sanuanu (11241)
• India
16 Apr 09
It is just like that I don't want to use "Hi" with every of my response or comment with my friends.
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@sanuanu (11241)
• India
21 Oct 09
Thank you very much for the pencil! I am honored!
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
This is my opinion. As your relationship get longer, you will also know your partner more. The tendency is your relationship will get tigher or weaker. It depends on how your relationship will be develop. If you're compatible, it will be tigher, if you're incompatible, then it will slowly getting cold. So for me, I guess it still important that you pick a partner who shares the same interests.
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• Philippines
15 Apr 09
yes i agree its hard to keep the relationship alive when both of you are not compatible or have the same likes and dislikes...but irregardless there also should be differences since both of you will fall to boredome. and it doesnt also mean that incompatibility would make the relationship go down the sink..at the end it will always be both who will work for hte relationship.
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• Philippines
15 Apr 09
That is true. relationship for it to work should be worked out by both parties. It would be too tiring if only one works for it to work. Having the same interest would be fun for you share the same hobbies or like and dislikes but it would also be fun to learn new things. I believe that opposite poles attracts as well as long as both parties agree to disagree but in the long run it doesn't affect thew relationship. that would be fun.
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@rensal77 (116)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
I also had the same observation. I think maybe because in the beginning, it is still best foot forward. That's why guys seem more affectionate. And as months pass and both parties become secured with the relationship, that is when they start saying I love you for granted. But that doesn't mean that the love has waned. How often "I love you" is said cannot be a measure of how deep or shallow the couple's feelings for each other is. But I just read a book about love languages and it will be a lot of help to know what your partner's love language is. Because if his/her love language is words of affirmation, that means that hearing those words means a lot to him/her rather than receiving any gift from you. Other love languages are acts of service, quality time, receiving gifts, and physical touch.
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing your thoughts regarding this discussion. I totally agree with what you said.
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@Theresaaiza (9599)
• Australia
15 Apr 09
Hi princess,well five years into the relationship,we still don't forget to say "I Love You" to each other. That really makes the relationship much stronger.
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• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing my friend. I think that really helps to remind each other that love binds you together. Is the frequency of saying the "I love you" is as often when you both started? . Have a great day!!!
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• Philippines
15 Apr 09
well im in my 3yr relationship and yes, it is rarely now adays but when it is said it has a different meaning..something deep and from the heart. i dont mean that when its in the new relationship the iloveyou word is shallow, its just that i dont believe that you feel love that quick. i believe that when you love you truly love someone when you have truly known him, strength and weaknesses and bad habits and alll of it with no strings attached. dont worry your not alone in this observation..
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• Philippines
15 Apr 09
thanks for sharing your thoughts with my observation. I think this really happens when love matures when you become so secure with each other. Have a great day and happy mylotting!!!
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• Canada
20 Apr 09
I think that guys feel that once they have the woman hooked, they don't have to try so hard. Guys sometimes take women for granted. As for my husband, I'm very lucky with him. We've been married almost 2 years, and we still say I love you, many many many times a day. I'll send this discussion his way. He's also on MyLot.
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• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and experience with this discussion. Yes, you are lucky indeed that your hubby doesn't fail to let you know how much he loves you everyday. Not all men are like him he is one of the few who remains to be sweet and thoughtful even after several years of marriage. Thanks for sharing and have a great day!!!
@modstar (9617)
• Philippines
4 May 09
When the relationship is still new, the guys needs a lot of convincing to do to make their significant other believe them. Of course it's genuine but it's also the time when the significant other is still in doubt partly because the relationships is just starting to blossom. As days go by, saying "i love you" is being mentioned less because it's getting more special. I'm sure you get tired of listening to it too often too right? So saying it just once in a while makes it a lot more special in a way that we, the guys, will keep reminding you that we're still here and still in love.
@Vladilyich1 (1456)
• Canada
21 Apr 09
Unfortunately, guys are rather linear in their thinking and have a tendency towards being goal oriented. When the goal is reached (or appears to have been reached), "I love you" gets pushed to the back of the mind and priority list. The trick is to keep his attentiion focused on his original goal.