How would you know pity from love?

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
April 15, 2009 5:21am CST
If someone pities you, sometimes they act that they care out of love. And that's the problem sometimes with relationships lover/family. How would you know that someone cares for you because of pity/obligation, not because of love?
2 responses
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Love is just pity/obligation if: 1.you stay in the relationship even if you're not happy anymore. 2.you can't leave the relationship because you believe that partner's life will be wasted. 3.you stay in the relationship because of the kids. Thinking that you don't want them to grow up without a father.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
nos. 1 & 2 are happening to my friend and another is that she thinks that she would regret the decision of leaving him. She's afraid that she might regret it when she leaves him and then he finds someone new. Even if he won't go find someone, there are lots of girls waiting for him to be free and single. I just don't want to tell her to try to cool off with him because 1ST: I don't want to interfere with their relationship and 2nd because I don't want her to rely on what I say that can ruin our friendship when she'd cool off with him and regret it in the last moment. Do you get what I mean? I'm just so guilty of leaving her behind... because i'm in Jeddah now with my family and she doesn't have anyone with her that would listen to her besides her bf. we still have communication through fs but still it's not that often so we miss each other. *sigh
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
I understand you. I just answer the questions you ask on this discussion "How would you know pity from love?" I thought it is nothing personal. I hope everything would be fine with your friend. Thanks
• India
15 Apr 09
lol, well yesterday u were saying that ur not interested in knowing anything abt relation ships becaz ur too busy in ur studies, but wht happened now , y u want to know this answer. but i will try to answer since my work is answering the questions . i think that if someone loves u really than he will be over possessive abt u , actually it is very difficult to diffrenciate between these two types of pity . i can tell u my example, i love a girl and i will always help her when she is in trouble . also i have a friend i too care abt her but not that way . she is just a friend. so u see it is quite difficult to say . well but u can test the love felling , if someone comes too fast to help u when u r in need , that means he really loves u .
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
you're right... i told that yesterday and that's true. Anyway, i'm just asking abt a family situation and because of a friend who's confused whehter she's just staying with her bf because of love or whatever... thanks for replying. Happy mylotting!