Your opinion, should girl still work even if she has family?

Philippines
April 17, 2009 8:57am CST
Nowadays woman are working even if she is married. And man now are really expecting that his partner will work and share with the expenses. So what is your opinion about this? For me, woman should really be working. Why? I don't want to always depend on my husband. For example, i want to go shopping or to go out for fun, i don't want to ask money from my husband. I don't want to burden my husband for my luxury. And also to share to our expenses. Of course you will be asking, what about the kids, who will take care of them. It will be practical if you get a nanny than you being nanny. For example, you will be paid 12000$, nanny will be paid 2000$, you still have 10,000$ additional to the money that your husband are earning. But if you will be the nanny, 12,000$ is a big amount of money to be added to the household income. The only thing that you make sure is that at the end of the day and before you go to sleep you have time for your kids.
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@prinzcy (3068)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 09
Woman should be working even when she's married and has a family. Working is not only as earning income but as her own backup if the bread winner, her husband left her or involves with an accident. By working, she doesn't depend solely to her husband and can move on if that happen. She can also help out with the bills and support the family expenses a bit. By working, she has her own money that she use for whatever purposes.
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
I think it greatly depends on what a girl wants out of her life. A career woman doesn't have to stop reaching for her goals just because she is married. But if she chooses to prioritize her family, she shouldn't be condemned as well. For practical reasons though, I think it is better that a girl continues to try to contribute to the family's income as this would give her a sense of self-fulfillment as well.
• United States
18 Apr 09
I think the wife is fine to stay home as long as the bills are paid theirs food on the table and the kids are taken care of and the husband is fine with doing all of the work. In an event that your husband isnt making enough to provide.Then I feel as if the wife should take it upon herself to find a job. one that she can work oppasite hours of her husbands that way they will not have to pay for a nanny.. I dont beleive in nanny's.. If you have a child you should be the one to take care of them not a nanny.
@dbobble (28)
• United States
18 Apr 09
Well, when I was little what my parents would do is have my dad start work in the morning and then when he got back from work my mom's shift started then. My parents had a great income like this and someone was always watching me. As I got older, I went to school and that allowed my parents to both have day jobs. So you could always switch once you're kids go to school.
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
it depends upon the couple. as for my experience, i worked for almost 9 years in an office. having my kids being taken cared of one of my relatives. but i have to make a choice wherein my husband was going to work away, i mean away from the country. My husband and i decided that i should take care of the kids and should resign from work. At first hesitant to do so, but after few months i've realized that my husband then was right. Coz having to take care of my kids was a very different story since he was away. Children should be guided enough by the parents through specially their growing years. i would say that im very happy to be taking care of them, inspite of the many difficulties that may be brought out. As long as we enjoy what were doing, go for it. lol!!!!
@Mac6999 (706)
• India
18 Apr 09
I think women should be allowed to choose what they want to do. Maybe they can stay home for 1 or 2 years and then start working again. But its difficult these days to do that as women work for firms where they get a limited amount of leave and get fired if they dont come back soon. In the end its their choice as to what they want to do.
@cybersoft01 (1287)
• India
18 Apr 09
You have very nice thoughts. I think women should work if her family income is not enough. It is always better to get a nanny than being a nanny. My family income is enough but my wife still works for time pass.
@berrys (866)
• Singapore
18 Apr 09
I agree, I feel that women should not give up their jobs when having a family,we can work while still in the early bits of pregnancy and take maternity leave later. after the baby is born though, and possibly 2 years old. the women should resume working. and not depend on husbands. this way id one of ya get canned, your covered.
• China
18 Apr 09
of course should be.women working is not only for their family,but it can prove that woman can do the same thing as man. i mean ,you should not choose those difficult jobs,cos you must think about your family,your children.it need you more time to stay with your family,not in your office. and woman have rights to feel the whole society,even it`s not like their own imagine.
@SHAMRACK (8350)
• India
18 Apr 09
Dear friend, I hope the welfare of and well going of family is one of the most important thing. May be the family have take the better decisions with all members. I feel there are women who work and handle theri family well. May be there are also women who cannot, hence those who find it difficult is much better to look after family. Moreover the remmuneration the financial is also another fact why women work out. May be I hope ultimately it is the welfare of the family.
• China
18 Apr 09
why not?? work is helpful to health .work keeps people busy,away from loneliness and solitude. people fell unhappy worried and solitary when they have nothing to do.Do you think so?
@madhuvrn (81)
• India
18 Apr 09
It depends upon the family and the women. If she can really balance her work and family and the family is in need of money, she can go. Otherwise its better for her to take care of family. Because, Any office can be managed by men or women. But only women can manage a family. Thats the power of women. I respect them.
@mansha (6302)
• India
18 Apr 09
Yes and let me ask yu the same thing, why men should only work if they have a family? We as a society have always seen men as the provider and women as a nurturing and caring force for the family. But times have changes andso should our prespective. If a woman is qualified and educated why not she work, not only for supporting her husband but also for economic and financial freedom the earning potential gives her too. ANd does not men who work spend time with their kids, its all in your attitude. My brother and his wife both work, my brother even took a transfer for the sake of her career so that she should not miss on a good oppurtunity, they have a small kid nine month old, they have encouraged her mom to stay with them who is single and a widow to take care of the baby and not only it makes her day full and keeps her occupied she also enjoys the company of her little grand kid. They split expenses with her so that she does not feel that she is living on charity. She lives her own independent life too. She is free to plan her schedule and they all decide as a family. Even if you can't have a family member living with you , you can take a break for a year or two and then join once kid can go in day care or school. Its all up to you to decide after all its your life.
• United States
18 Apr 09
It all depends. There are some that don't want to work but have to work. They are others that don't have to work but want to work. There should be a balance for work and family. It shouldn't be all work and no family to pay for expenses. I am sure that a person who spends alot of time with their family but doesn't have enough money to pay expenses can cause some tension.
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
18 Apr 09
Yea, i definitelythink women should still go to work, forget about the male being the sole breadwinner because if it is a marriage, then aren't you both in it together, and together shall you share your burdens, troubles and joy...I think you're really organised and you've thought far and i think it's going good for you...So i hope you'll continue to work too...^_^
@qinqinoen (127)
• China
18 Apr 09
I think it all depends on the couples.If the husband have a high salary and can afford the living expense ,it is no need for his wife to work.Then she can take more care of her baby.If the wife doesn't like to do the housework and insists to go to work,they can hire a baby sitter.
@lumnata (10)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I don't think there's one right answer. Everyone is different and everyone wants different things.
• China
18 Apr 09
Yes.Why not?The work will make woman more free-standing and happy if she has a family.
@lvyanyan (42)
• China
18 Apr 09
I agree with you,I do not want to depend on my husband in future,I have not been married now,but i will have my own carrer.I think it is comfortable to spent money earned by myself.
@agv0419 (3030)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Now that life is hard there's nothing wrong if the woman works. So you can help your husband in the household expenses. You can buy anything you want that not asking your husband. But if you have children I think the problem is time with them. Sometimes it is the problem of the working mom how can they take care of there child if they are working.