What are the most common problems a married person has with their In-Laws?
By w1nsse
@w1nsse (36)
Philippines
2 responses
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
One common problem is that in-laws try to meddle with the decisions of their married sons or daughters especially if their sons or daughters are their favorites. I had this problem during my early stage of marriage. My hubby the the second child among his siblings and ever since when he was just nine years old, he started helping out his mom in her business until he was able to put up his own. but when he got married with me, his relationship with his mom greatly changed as his mom kept on meddling with every decision that we make with my husband. It was a very difficult situation then but now, i can honestly say that we are now in good terms with my mom-in-law.
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@w1nsse (36)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
i guess i am just looking for real people who actually do have problems with their in-laws and what they are because i obviously am having one with mine. well, i guess you hit the nail on the head when you said they are their favorites. my husband is my MIL's only son. though they do not really even have a relationship to begin with, She thinks they do. its just incredibly draining. i took a moment to think about what my problem with her is? and i came up with: if she could just tape her mouth shut for the entirety she visits us? then i would probably be ok with her. :/ she talks so loud so no one could miss what shes saying, and laughs at every single joke, even inside jokes that she has no clue what they're about. thinks she's always been right, and never been wrong before since the beginning of time. and what hurts the most is she's our mother. but no matter how hard we try to love her, and argue with her when we see something wrong, she makes it impossible for us to like her at all. i seriously do not know what to do. but thank you. i guess that makes it a little easier that its common. sad, but easier. you know what they say, misery loves company. lol. im just praying she would mature soon so we can be in good terms and maybe even start a relationship..
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
I'm not married yet but from what i have observed, i think it's usually about hating the other half back when both and husband and wife were still on the dating stage. It could have left a lasting impression on the in-laws. Sometimes the social status gets in the way of a good relationship with the in-laws. If the in-laws are rich then the husband/wife of their son/daughter is poor, then there's this tendency for the in-laws to look down on them. Maybe worried because the son/daughter in-law would not be good for their son/daughter.
@w1nsse (36)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
the thing is, i haven't heard so much about problems with in-laws. i hear about it on tv and saw it in the movies, but i never heard the specifics. and we love my brothers' wife! anyway, i just hope that things would change for the better in the long run. thank you for bothering to reply even though you're not married yet :)
