how long can u make friends

China
April 18, 2009 4:58am CST
I have moved to a completely new place. I have no relative or classmates here. I attend a class for the certificate, I hope I can have some friend here so that I can have some accompany in life. how long can u make friends? do u good at making new friends?
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@dlr297 (5387)
• United States
18 Apr 09
when we moved here to Tennessee in 2003. We did not know a sole, no body. I discovered that i was very shy around people that i did not know. Back in Ohio i had family and friends that i new for years so i was fine because i was around people that i was comfortable with. When we moved i was 47 years old and i was lost, and i had a hard time, but slowly as we got out more, we have made quite a few new friends. I got over being so shy around new people, and now i get a booth at the local flee market and i talk to a lot of people all the time. Just hang in their and start talking to people, and you will slowly start to make new friends. do not be shy like i was, because it is nothing to be afraid of.
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• China
19 Apr 09
thanks for sharing, I will try to overcome my shy to talk with them. Actually, I had a nice conversation with a girl who have similar experience with me. I hope we can be friends.
@flagella08 (5069)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
im good at that. i can even get the cellphone number of my seatmate in the plane. after the trip we eat snacks together. i had friends every town here in our region. im easy to go along with. can we be friends? LOL. no seriously? what's your location?
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• China
19 Apr 09
u are so friendly, while i need someone who can go shopping or talk with in person.
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
Now that you asked, yes, without any great effort i think i have the knack of making friends easily. I have many friends in every stage of my life and among them all i have a best friend in grade school, two best friends in high school and another best friend in college. There's my best friend in a former office and another new best friend in my present job. And the good thing about these best friends is that we still communicate regularly. Whenever i move to a different place i always gain a new friend on the first day. Perhaps this is so because i really am just one friendly person who knows when to speak up and start a conversation but also knows when to stop talking and just listen to what the other is saying. That description did not come from me, it is what my friends told me. Hi hiidelight! I hope you find the atmosphere to start a new friendship and go on building your confidence.
• China
19 Apr 09
That sounds so good that u are good at conversation.
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
Could be i got that trait from my mother. Or maybe i just developed it because i remember there were times in the past where some people said they were in doubt whether or not to approach me for something. I was a shy child, i always waited for the other person to make the first move. I waited till the other smiled at me or talked to me first before i could do the same. Having raised by poor parents, I almost always wore hand me down clothings from relatives and seeing my classmates wearing all the latest styles in fashion just made me feel like i don't belong. But things slowly changed when my teachers saw that i am quite good in something and i gained everybody's confidence. Now i can start small talk, i can freely talk to anybody, may they be professionals or the unschooled, old people or children like i once was.
@pal7604 (98)
• Sweden
18 Apr 09
Real friends are hard to get by. But acquaintances are easier. This will depend on your age and location of course. Find out where people hang out of your age level. Join activities in your school. Do you go to church? This is a good place too to find acquaintances. What do you mean by "so that I can have some accompany in life" are you looking for a partner in life? If you are, this won't be easy because this happens when it happens. Take care
• China
19 Apr 09
I dont look for a partner in life. I need some friends to go shopping or chat and so on.
@GardenGerty (99286)
• United States
18 Apr 09
It takes a while to make close friends, acquaintances from classes should be easy to come by, though. You can learn what you have in common and share those activities.
• India
18 Apr 09
I can make friends very easily and i get along well with them as well.thing here is i dont give importance to all the people whom i make friends with, it depends on many factors like how good is that a person towards me, any common things inbetween etc etc.it doesnt matter to me much whether im at a new place.
• India
18 Apr 09
no i don't make too many friends .but i think that was a case with me in past . now i can make friends easily.well nowadays it takes only sometime to make new friends . but earlier it used to take days for making new friends.In such a friendship i can not tell about the quality of friendship because in so less time u cant know about any person. but i can tell u about one of the best friends of mine .well we became best friends only in 5-7 days.I think it was because at that time we both were in need of a company . we r still good friends and we be for ever.