What would you do if you and your friend both in love with a same girl?

United States
April 19, 2009 12:22pm CST
So, what would be your next step? If both you and your friend was deeply in love with a same girl? You will compete for her? So, if somehow you knew that she only sees your friend's existence, would you still compete for it? Because you believe in someday you might touch her heart with your sincerity. Or you might just give up as well?
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• Philippines
20 Apr 09
if in case my friend and i are in love with the same guy, i'll reflect on things and weigh which one is more valuable for me. i have actually experienced this situation once and i chose my friend. i am afraid that i might hurt her and make her feel degraded. i don't want to lower her self-esteem. the guy and i was secretly texting each other and i never told her about it until i realized that what i was doing was wrong. i think i never loved the boy that much too because i felt that the decision was so easy to make.
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
20 Apr 09
In my opinion love is not a competition. If you found yourself in this situation the best thing to do is to let your friend know that you do love her and let him know that there will be no competition. Then I would go to her and tell her of my feelings and let things go from there. What you are wanting her to do is fall in love with you and while it is important that you do what ever you can to get that result it should be done as though your friend is not a factor. If she falls for you then it will take care of itself. If she does not it makes no difference how much to try to compete for her it will not happen. In fact the harder you try the less likely it will happen. What you want in a girlfriend is one that has only eyes for you. If she doesn't then move on. You can't make that happen. If it is meant to happen your sincerity will make it so and your friend has nothing to do with it.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
i cant be in love with a girl cos i am a girl.. if with a guy, i will leave it up to my friend and then i will do nothing. i mean the guy will be making moves for the one he likes. nothing for me to care about much.