April 20, 2009 12:37pm CST
Ok, so I have a 16 year old daughter who has joined the dating scene. I also have a 15 year old daughter and a 13 year old son. Well, with the 16 year old around the age of 14 we let her start going out on group dates with a group of friends, we would drop her off and pick her up. We found out later that this was not a good thing, she was being deceitful with all of that. Then we just stopped it completely, at this time she was spending a lot of time at a girlfriends house, well we found out later that this girlfriends parents were letting her go out on dates with boys alone before she turned 16! Bad news, she doesn't ever get to spend the night with that girl again. When do you feel like the appropriate age for dating is? Do you think that your children are being honest with you?
• South Africa
20 Apr 09
Maby one night you should let her go but before she goes talk to her and ask her for her trust an have a nice easy talk. You should always be more careful with the girls I'm not saying treat them different just be carefull because they get hurt the easiest.
• United States
20 Apr 09
Well we tried that with the movie theater, we had actually given her several different chances and each time we thought she was doing what she was supposed to and she started earning back out trust, we caught her in another lie. It was heartbreaking.
• United States
22 Apr 09
I'm not sure what the right age is,. I suppose maturity has something to do with it. My girls are only 11, but I have already started to think about what we will do when they are ready to date. I am lucky and know many of the boys and girls that they are in school with. Many of their parents I went to school with myself. My one daughter has a boyfriend now of over a year. She walks with him a very short walk to his mom's work after school one day a week. They stay in her office and do homework or mess around on the computer. His mom is dating my brother, so we have been close with him for quite some time and I often have him and his brother and my niece and nephew over to hang out. I have told my children that I trust them until they give me a reason not too. So far things are working out well. My other daughter has a boyfriend now of about a week. They are still getting to know each other, so we haven't started the hang out thing yet. I am so sorry for your experience with your daughter sneaking around and being deceitful. I would be devastated if my daughters did that to me. So far my girls and I are very close and they tell me everything! Maybe even to much information. But I am ok with it. I trying to respond instead of react and keep the lines of communication open. Good luck!