Moving to fast?
By babytaffster
@babytaffster (2232)
Chatsworth, California
April 20, 2009 5:40pm CST
My friend and his girlfriend have been together for almost a month, they say the are madly in love with each other. He says she is the one for him and he knows it. And they said this all of 2 weeks ago(maybe less.) 3 days ago she told me he wanted to proposes to her, and that he almost did, but wasn't sure they were in the right place (he would have done it this Sunday) but they are still sure they will be married. They spend all their time together.
I want to warn them that it's moving to fast, I brought it up to one of them a little while ago and they said "I know, I think that sometimes, it's weird, because it just feels so right."
What do you think? Do these things usually work out, or have they pushed the gas peddle down to hard? Should I say anything or just keep telling them "wow, thats great!"
3 responses
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
20 Apr 09
They are moving too fast, like insanely fast. The reality of the situation is that while they may very well feel that way about each other they absolutely do not know each other yet and it is not a realistic time to make such a decision. I would tell him that you think it's great that they found each other and that they're so madly in love but at this time simply being together should be enough. I would just try to emphasize that they have lots of time to worry about engagements and marriage and that this early in the relationship they should just be content being together without worrying about the next step. If he is still adamant about making a commitment to her then maybe suggest a 'promise ring'. It's just a little symbol saying that you are 'promising' to get engaged. That way they have a symbol of their intent without the permanency. If he is still intent on proposing to a girl he's only known for a month and he simply wont listen to reason then you will just have to be content that you tried to talk some sense into him and accept it!
@babytaffster (2232)
• Chatsworth, California
21 Apr 09
They've known each other for 2 years, but didn't talk much until about 3 months ago. Then all of a sudden they realized they had feeling for each other and now they are in love.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
20 Apr 09
I know a lot of people that know exactly what it is what they want and seek in a relationship, but it's very difficult and dangerous in my opinion to set something in stone so early. Have they ever had any fights? Have they ever had to spend any extended periods of time apart? Those are ventures that they will probably have to face together that could lead to the discovery of things that perhaps they didnt know prior and come to realize that it wasn't as good as they thought. I think that a month is still well into the "honeymoon" phase and that if they're thinking about marriage fine.. but they definitely should not become engaged or married so early on..
@babytaffster (2232)
• Chatsworth, California
20 Apr 09
As far as I can tell they never fight and spend every available minute together. All she ever talks about is how great he is. Like literally THAT IS ALL!
@Mtorro (22)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I suppose it cold. My parents got married 2 weeks after they met, they got engaged 5 days after they first met. My parents locked eyes, and they "just knew"
Meanwhile my aunt and uncle were high school sweethearts, had been together for 7 years, got married, and devorced 3 months after my causin was born.
