Meddling Mother-In-Law - How do you get her to mind her business?

@nv_jenn (207)
Canada
April 22, 2009 12:50pm CST
Ok, I love my Mother-In-Law but I can't stand her at the same time. She is there when you need her but blabs your information the moment she leaves. She is constantly telling me how I should raise my kids and she wasn't the best mother to begin with, she has a 30 year old son who she still has to babysit or he acts like a jerk. Her other son, who is my significant other is 28 (as am I) and she acts like we are still kids. We have 2 kids, 9 & 10 who are happy and healthy kids. Obviously we are doing something right. She constantly asks if we have paid rent, hydro and everything else. How do I get her to back off?
3 responses
@chigawaga (593)
• Canada
22 Apr 09
well i think that u need to tell her what u dont like that she is doing and tell her that if she doesnt respect your boundarys about that situation then there will be consequences of whatever u think woudl be appropriate.u have to let her know otherwise she will just keep doing it because she will think its ok.
@nv_jenn (207)
• Canada
22 Apr 09
I have never sat down with her and told her she gets on my nerves but she has definetly been on the other end of the phone when I was complaining about her and I know she got an earful. I feel I should respect my boyfriend and not tell his mother off but that is the only way I feel she will get the point if she hasn't yet. We have been together for 14 years!
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
25 Apr 09
I bet she had a wonderful mother-in-law who left her to make her own choises and conduct her life as she could see fit. She does not know the feeling of having someone "above her head" all the time. My mother-in-law is the same. Every time she was coming to my house, was moving things around because it has "more taste".Telling me how to do things, all the time. She helped raise my kids. Was running away the moment I was coming home from work, only to call ten times after that, to tell me how to deal with this or that. I told her 10 thousand times to leave me alone, my husband told her too, no help. I even had a big fight with her. No help. We moved far away from her - this helped. I know it's not nice leaving her, but from time to time, you have no choice. Yours', thinks that she's still in charge of her "kids" and it's not ready to let go. Maybe, I say maybe - a talk would help.You never know till you give it a try... Good luck!
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
hi! just have a talk to your mother in law..and i believed that she will understand it..you know like you i have also an auntie who is very talkative and she mind our business..she always interrogating everything what she have seen in our family..i only smile at her..sometimes even the most little things she make it a big talks.