My friend is a foster carer
April 22, 2009 1:09pm CST
My friend cares for children for several months until they are adopted. Since last year she has been looking after a 2 year old girl and a baby girl who is now aged 10 months. They have now been found adoptive parents which my friend will meet next week. Since last week my friend has been looking after a 1 month old baby girl. Her biological mother is just 19 years old and she felt unable to cope with having a baby. What do you think of foster care? How do you think children adjust to their adoptive parents?
24 Apr 09
I don't think I could be a foster carer. I get too attached to kids and although I would go into it knowing that they were only there for a while, I would find it difficult to let them go. I think I'd be more suited to adopting the children. I'm not sure either how to view it from a child's perspective. They just get used to their foster parents when they have to move on to adoptive parents and it must be a big wrench to them, having to adjust all over, leaving the children you've been with for a while and the foster parents. I've seen, many a time, a child come back to their foster mothers and the other children they've grown to know as their brothers and sisters, so it can't be easy for them either. Brightest Blessings my friend.
22 Apr 09
Your friend is doing a very honorable thing... being a foster parent is not an easy thing to do... and she is doing these children a great favor by shielding them for the ugly world out there... I would love to be a foster parent... but i do not know if there is such a program here in my country... a nun told me i can do that for on of the children in their orphanage... but the place is too far for me to go to... well, someday when finances allow me... i would like to adopt a baby girl or boy of my own...
22 Apr 09
Hi maximax8, Your friend is doing a wonderful job and I think children are better off with foster parents where the have a family life rather than being left in a children's home, I'm sure children are much happier being fostered out where there is no choice of staying with their mum. Tamara