would you trust a friend who betrayed you once?

betrayed - how painful to be betrayed by your trusted friend. this picture shows how it is to be like losing someone you've trusted for all of your life. how will you deal with it if it happens to you.?
Philippines
April 23, 2009 9:25am CST
Next to our family perhaps our friends is the one we confide to our deepest secret , problems, and whatever it is that makes us feel human. when time comes that our dearest friend betrayed us how can we trust them. is there any chance that this betrayal can build a stronger foundation of what our friendship meant forever? xoxo :)
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18 responses
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
before starting with, let me ask you this question. if we were best of friends for a very long time and just lately you did something bad such as betraying me. if you are to judge yourself, do yo want me to forgive you and trust you back or not? how many times in your life have you betrayed a friend? it may be not as big and hurting as what your dearest friend might have done to you but my point is that, life is too short for us to fill it with anger and hatred. filling your life with such bad elements make you feel strong and satisfied for sometime. you might think that he or she deserves your anger and revenge for doing such thing. but believe me or not.. that element that feeds your ego will eventually choke you. thus killing you slowly and softly.do you want to die from the wrath of your revenge or do you want to die with a smirk on your face? think about this, if Jesus were counting our sins and weighing them as they are. i bet no one would ever qualify to go to heaven. imagine if God would never ever ever forget your sins, even if how much you repented for it.. just imagine.. God bless..
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
If we were bestfriends and I betrayed you, I know inside in my heart that there is a deep reason for me to do that. Friends always try to protect there other half and they wont let friendship lose that easily. we are only human and we commit sins, as the saying says "let the sinless cast the first stone" we should learn to accept each others imperfection. I agree that revenging is not a good idea. let us just think there is someone who makes a better person with this experience, it might be you, me or the both of us......xoxo:)
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
23 Apr 09
It depends of how big it causes for your friend/s betrayal. Though betrayal is a mortal sin for me and if she betrayed me behind my back and destroyed my reputation, then that's another story. I don't think after someone betrated you, you can still trust them. Trust is an important matter in any relationship. If its broken, relationship isn't perfect and happy as it was because doubt have grown already. Decision is in with you. Be smart this time. He/she can still be your friend, but don't trust the person the way you trusted him/her before.
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
i think that trust can never be earn again by someone who had destroyed it. trust is a basic foundation in any relationship between individuals. yes sometimes it depends on how big it causes for your friends betrayal whatever the reason was for his/her action it is still betrayal.. xoxo :)
• India
24 Apr 09
Noooooooooooooooooooooooo neverrrrrrrrrrrrr If something like that happen to me i will never trust him again bcoz itz not at all possible for me to build up that trust once again with the same guy who has once crushed it already. And in the future i will become more careful to trust someone and open infront of anyone.
@mimiang (3760)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
No more.Goodbye for her
@hxstar (510)
• China
24 Apr 09
Hi,onnlyllyzie Well,it depends.I will still believe in some friends who have betrayed once or more while I won't believe in others.However,I don't think the betrayal can build a stronger foundation of what our friendship meant forever,even I will trust what he said,I don't mean that I will believe what he said fully.Maybe to me,betrayal is unacceptable.By the way,I will never betry my friends! Have a nice day!
@tzaddi (395)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
it really depends on you, you know. i mean, we can only give advices to you, but in the end, it's you and your decision that will seal the deal. :)
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
Personally for me when trust is broken it is really hard to bring it back. I maybe forgive that certain person and remain friends but i would not gave the same trust ever again. That's why we should really take care of the trust we give and receive as it is very important in a relationship. Happy mylotting!
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
I think I would find it difficult to trust somebody who has betrayed me already. I can honestly say that I have always been honest and loyal to my friends that I think any kind of betrayal would leave a mark in my relationship with them. It will take time before I get to really be friends again with him/her.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
yes, i would. It happens all the time but we just can't do anything about it. Like you said, friends are the next people whom we confide our problems. They are not perfect so one way or another, they tend to spill the beans. But have you thought that losing them would be a lot worse? I have a friend who betrayed me so bad but we're still friends now and i still trust him. We've been through a lot and i can say he's a mix of good and evil. There were times when he would help me in situations where i needed him most.
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
There's No way that i can risk my life,career and family trusting some one who i believed betrayed my trust. it has happened to me before as many as i could remember. most where complete treacherous to the core. . I know that am god fearing person now. but surely am not ready or never will be ready to trust them again. life is too short for such risked. .
@sjoshin (10)
• India
24 Apr 09
Its too hard to forgive a friend who betrayed us bcoz we share everything more than our relations. If its not that much important relationship we wont expect in them. If we wont expect from them we wont be worried of their betrayal.
@xtine22 (200)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
Depends on what 'level' of betrayal a friend had done, I guess. If it's something I can forgive, I won't mind rebuilding our friendship and trusting her/him again. But of it cause lots of damage, it might be hard. I'm only human, after all. It may be easy to forgive, but hard to forget.
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
For me the betrayal will really make the friendship crumble.How can you give your full trust to a person that betrayed you,I will never really make friends with people like that.If they did it to you they will never think twice in doing it again and you will be hurt.
@Boone86 (26)
• China
24 Apr 09
It will be really hard,I dont think I can trust them any more.I will never betray my friend and I want them do the same thing to me..
@shiloh_222 (5479)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
that's gonna be so hard. don't you think.. it just cuts deep... hehehe
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
It depends on the situation.. if it's a really big issue that caused a lot of trouble to my life, for instance; destroying my name, i wouldn't be friends with him/her anymore.. i would rather lose him/her forever. anyway, it isn't my lost it's hers. there are more trustworthy people out there who deserve my precious time.. =)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
there was a friend i met at my previous work and we hit it off really well because i befriended her on her first day and gave her tips, showed her around, introduced her to the other office mates and we just have the same wavelength in thoughts and we have a lot in common. people at the office know we are the closest friends there. then one time, there was another girl in the office who i don't really give much attention to, but my friend sort of showed me the bad side of the girl. so i was more aloof to this girl than before. to cut the long story short, our boss thought we were ganging up on the girl, and talked to us separately. after that, my friend never speak to me again. i tried asking her if we can talk but she refused. so for me, i tried my best to clear things out with her, and if she was really a friend, she would have allowed me to know what is wrong and give my side of the story if ever i did something wrong right?so after that, i did not talk to her again, she sent me a message to let me know she's in another country now but i could not care less anymore. there are more deserving friends who need my time and attention than her
@jkatmaou (195)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
it really hurts a lot when you get betrayed. i wont trust them again with anything but i can still be civil with them. if you do have somehing to say, be careful and weigh things first before you actually say anything.