Who should you support, your husband or son?

@myfb2009 (8304)
Malaysia
April 24, 2009 4:51am CST
Have you came across, where your husband and my son are quarelling? You don't know, you need to support who, because both are your dearest. Had you ever came across this kind of situation? Recently, my neighbour came across this kind of situation and asking for my opinion. Im really out of ideas to help her. How's your opinion?
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6 responses
@dlr297 (5085)
• United States
24 Apr 09
Thats a hard question to answer because we do not know the situation, First off Parents need to stick together when raising children, because they will try to play one against the other to get what they want. If for some reason i thought my husband was in the wrong, I would talk to him in private, and give him my opinion, so that he could work it out with the child. The only time i think that i would jump into the middle of it is if my husband was abusing, or hitting the child.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
Yes, i agree with you. If it's not serious, much better let themselves work it out first..
@dlr297 (5085)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Thank you so much for the Best Response . It is so much appreciated.
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
28 Apr 09
I would have to say that it depends on the situation. But what I know is that if I do not agree with my husband I would not let my child know. As parents we need to stand together on parenting. I would pull my husband aside and talk to him and see if a solution could be found. But if I agree with my husband I would stick by him completely.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
You have a great point about parenting. I ever tried this matter myself. Maybe, i will suggest this to my neigbor as well.
@megalia (60)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 09
hm.. actually I haven't got husband or son.. but if later i came across to this kind of situation, i think I'll support the one who is right. if my son doing wrong thing, I'll support my husband and give some advice to my son.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
Thanks for giving me some good ideas. Hope you will meet someone special soon...
• United States
24 Apr 09
I think it's best if you try to understand the situation and hear both sides of the story first. That will give you a strong basis to be able to support the correct person. This will also help you avoid getting into an arguement with either of them. I know it's always hard to try to side with a person in a quarrel espesialy if it's your own family.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
Thanks for giving some good ideas. I do agreed that it's not easy to be a supporter when it happened in your own family. That's why, my neigbor was so sad that day..
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
24 Apr 09
If I had to side with someone or play referee I'd go with which ever person ws in the right...If my husband is in the right then I'd back him up, but if my son was in the right I'd back him up..I've been in this situation several times with both my kids and my husband and I've always sided with whoever ws in the right....Its the proper thing to do IMO
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing your experience with me. I will inform my neigbor about it.
• United States
24 Apr 09
Wow. That is a tough situation to be in. I guess it would depend on the situation. Often times children go to the other parent wanting things after getting denied by the first parent. Maybe this was the cause of the fight?
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 09
I am not really sure of what happen in between them because i was not at their house. As i know, the son want something from the father but the father refused to let him have it. So, later the mother saw they are quarelling..Pity to my neighbor. She is a kind and friendly lady..