Will You Meet A Cyber Boyfriend?

@diutay (1315)
Philippines
April 26, 2009 9:40am CST
My friend had been corresponding with a guy from another for maybe two years already. They became steady. About two weeks ago, my friend told me that this guy whom she met through the net has invited her to go to Hong Kong so that they can meet each other finally. He said that he'll go there for a medical conference and his parents will also be having a vacation there. Furthermore, he'll handle the travel expenses of my friend so that she can also meet his parents. When I knew about it, at first I kept mum. But then later I'd ask her for details because I was also worried about her. She's supposed to go next weekend but I am not sure she'll really do it. What do you think? If you were in her situation, will you go or not?
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@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
Hmm.. I'm not really sure too unless i've heard of the details of their romance. lol! But i think 2 years is not a joke and nobody in his right mind would shoulder the expenses unless he'll get something more out of it. I think it's better if she'll bring along a friend just in case. The only one who can answer that would be your friend because she know the person well enough than us. Hong Kong, hmm.. It's a pretty crowded place right? It would be difficult to track her if she's gone missing. You know what i mean.
@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I agree. Now if only I am free to go. Though I did tell her that in case she decides to go to make sure that she contacts the Hong Kong office of the organization that I am connected with and if possible stay there since we also have a hostel there. I tried to be subtle though and said that since she'll be in Hongkong anyway to check if possible the facilities there for a study tour that I'd like to organize this year.Actually, I just wanted to have somebody check up on her safety.
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
Very clever! lol! Now if only i am clever enough to make you provide me a ticket to Hong Kong and let me stay on the hostel you were talking about. lol!
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
I'd get me a ticket first before anything else...with Cebu Pacific( calling the management of Cebu Pacific!!!), the tickets are more affordable now.
@Eweniks (362)
• Nigeria
27 Apr 09
This would have been a good oportunity for ur friend to travel to hong kong, but these days one has to be careful. Well, try and get the full detail of the guy to be sure he actually exist. Moreso, put it prayer, so that God could reaveal the truth. Good luck
@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I started checking around just to make sure.
@swatig (1187)
• India
27 Apr 09
I met cyber friend after so much talk and understanding but eventually its one or two time offline meeting coz after that so called friend of that time is gone outside the city and thereafter we talk telephonic conversation. now i don't know where its now. that time i am truthful to mine identification but not now. i must say that its very good and sound experience.
@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
Yes...there are times when we use another persona.
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
Base on my own opinion, if a guy is really interested in meeting her then he should have some effort to drop by at the girls place, besides HongKong is not that for from philippines. Be gentleman enough to meet the girl and her family. Then after a couple of visits here in the philippines.
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
That's what I suggested to her. Have him drop by. Anyway, he'll still pay more or less the same amount if ever.
@EmpressM (61)
• China
27 Apr 09
I will go.I think it is worthy to meet a friend you have known for two years.Maybe we will have a miracle.
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
True enough just maybe.
@mapuang (612)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
i have a cyber boyfriend but he doesnt want me to go anywhere to meet him but instead he promise me he will go here and visit me and meet me personally. anyway maybe she got the ticket now and ready to go or she must have a chaperon so that shes safe. just wish her luck and be careful.
@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
That's nice. I think that's better.
@ada547612 (203)
• China
27 Apr 09
If I were in her circumstances, I will do so.
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
In the end, it's actually her choice.
@junojose (43)
• India
27 Apr 09
I would rather be at home in such a case.Through social networking sites you can meet a lot of people all around the world.You can chat with anyone you like.But i dont think that they may end in a relationship that lasts too long.Moreover the details provided by the users can also be fake.So it's better not to trust and try to keep aloof.
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I still believe that there are a lot of really warmhearted persons on the net but just to be on the safe side I think.
• United States
27 Apr 09
Wow. That is a good question. I personally would try to talk her out of going for one, because she does not know what he is really like. Being cool online is one thing but what is he really like in real life. 2nd His parents are going to be on vacation sounds like hes a little young. I remember when I was a young guy. On a good day that I was bored I pretended that I was a 45 year old guy trying to pick up a 25 year old female from Italy. I know it was stupid but back to the point. This guy could be anyone. I suggest that if she does go. Take great precaution.
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
Amen to that!!
• United States
27 Apr 09
I met my current boyfriend of over 2 years over the internet. However, we both live in the same city so when it came time to meet in person it was easier and I had a male friend/co-worker with me. And everything has been great! I know people say internet dating is bad and danagerous, which it can be if your not careful. I would not have met him if I didn't have someone there with me. I do not agree with her flying across seas to another country though. Like many have said that can be very danagerous. But, it would be hard to stop your friend from doing what she feels in her heart is right. About the only thing I can think for you to suggest to her if she goes through with it, is to make sure you have a way to reach her and she calls you often. I would just tell her your not trying to be over pertective or like a parent to her but your just conserned for her safety and would greatly appreciate her keeping in touch with you if she insists on going to Hong Kong. But to answer your question I would not go to another country or state for that matter to meet someone.
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
Both of us have the same thoughts. I know that there also plenty of good people on the net. We're here right?There are still several days to go. I've said my piece. Now, it's up to her.
26 Apr 09
Hi diutay, This is so very dangerous ground she is walking, people can say all kinds of things and I would trust this boyfriend, but he maybe ok but I would't do it, saying that I have met a man from mylot and he is a lovely person, my fried and I met up with him and have stayed firm friends, you may know him, he is p1kef1sh. I hope to meet up again sometimes and hope to meet others as well. Tamara
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
yeah, I remembered that you mentioned him last time. Just like in my case, I also wanted to meet somebody from myLot when he came over to our city for a seminar. Unfortunately, our schedules were in conflict. Hopefully, we get to see him next time.
@berrys (865)
• Singapore
26 Apr 09
personally i would never ever meet someone face to face if i met them online , so i wouldn't even think of going half way around the world just to meet them. internet dating is a very dangerous thing because people can misinterpret themselves all the time and many people fall victims to them. im not saying all people become eventually but im saying that it is a high chance. if this guy turns out to be a murderer or rapist and she goes around the world to see him there's nothing much you can probably do cause she played right in to his hands. then again if they've been talking for two years and she feels like she knows him and wants to meet him, shouldn't she try a different way first. with the advancement of technology the options are unlimited. they can try webcaming one another first or using skype. if they want they can also 3g each other first. or even just talk on the phone. try any other way to get closer to the person without meeting them first and once you guys really know each other and have gone pass that awkward face of seeing each other for real, the moment that you guys actually meet will be way better and more rewarding. please warn your friend, and tell her that she has other possible ways first before actually meeting him face to face no matter how eager she is. good luck and god bless. cheers love.
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I am not totally against them seeing each other. I just want her to consider everything and for her to be cautious. Thanks.
@MAllen400 (830)
26 Apr 09
Is there any way your friend could get a cheaper ticket so that you or someone else could go with her? You never said how old she is but she sounds too young to go on her own. I must admit I have met two families through the internet and travelled from England to America to meet one family, and had another family here to stay. But, I had my husband with me and I am a bit older! It can be wonderful meeting the person that you have been talking to on here and I do believe you do get a feeling of what they are like. Having said that though there is always the bad apple that you cannot trust. What does your friends parents say about it? Perhaps you could get the parents to discuss this together as I am sure they would then work out if it was okay or not.
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
The guy is going to the booking for her online, I heard. She's 22. I trust her but I don't know the guy. It would be better if she goes with somebody though.
@mimimeow (295)
• Hong Kong
26 Apr 09
em....I met my present boyfriend on internet and I flew to met him 6 months after we know each other. Well, it's now 3-4 years ago. I know it's some crazy idea and I am lucky to meet a honest guy. What I'd like to ask is how deep your friend know about this cyber boyfriend? And how serious is she towards him? Besides, it sounds a little strange with they "in love" for 2 years without seeing each other physically. It's not something very normal. Also will people usually introduce a never meet girlfriend to their parents?
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
She's a bit secretive about him. Though she showed me some pictures of the guy, I still am apprehensive. I am not totally averse of their relationship but I am just thinking of her safety. I mean, if things go well then okay but at least she should also take precaution. You're very lucky that the one you met is somebody who's great.
• South Africa
26 Apr 09
Only under certain conditions, will I go. Mostly, I think the beauty of internet friendships is that they are so easy to control. You don't open the door to a very drunk internet friend at one in the morning (well, unless you are online). If I had been corresponding with the person for a long time AND I wanted to meet him/her anyway AND some exterior event made it possible, then I might consider it, but I'd stick to neutral ground and make sure my friends and family knew about it. A friend of my sister's met a wonderful guy through internet dating, but I'd have to add that before that, she had an experience of someone who turned out to be totally the opposite to his online personality. I'm not into internet dating, but I do communicate with people in writers groups, or other groups related to my interests.
@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
That's what I told her also. I said that I don't know that guy though most of what I heard about him from her are positive, still there is still that reservation. It would have been ok if she'll have somebody with her or if the guy comes over. I didn't want to meddle but I in a way I worry.
@littleowl (7157)
26 Apr 09
Hi diutay, personally I definitly wouldn't go! If he wanted to meet me then he would have to meet me on my 'turf'...after all how does your friend really know what he is like, my sister met people on the net but made sure they always met her near where she lived. It could be dangerous for your friend yet it may be the for the best..either way he would have to come to see me first if I was in her position..no matter how tempting the sound of going to another country is...littleowl
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
I totally agree with you. Besides, this will be the first that she'll go abroad and I really am so worried.
@yuhesky (142)
• China
27 Apr 09
some time it's not ture ,net can change a lot personals life ,so you need ask your friend have a look before jump.