Living alone or with family.

@Margarit (3677)
Philippines
April 30, 2009 8:33am CST
More and more people today live alone for they want full control to their lives, no house rules to follow. No one can influence what they want to do. They become independent and self reliant. But still it is different when you live with a family, a family that cares and support, a family that can count on and a family who will loves you unconditionally. Which do you prefer, living alone or with a family?
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51 responses
@babshish (1390)
• India
30 Apr 09
Hi Margarit, Really a very nice topic to discus. In today's world everyone is following the same thing which you have told. There can be many reasons behind that, no necessary they are living alone because they wanted to, but there can be some valid reasons behind that as well. But ofcourse living with a family is really alltogether a very different thing. You have more and more members to support you when you are sad or in some tension. They are there with you to share your happiness. Personally I really like to live in a joint family, but unfortunately I can't because of my carrier, but I try to compensate the same by being with them whenever possible, I know this is not enough, but can't help the situation. But if got the chance, will definately live with them.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Hi babshish, Well i think mostly wants to be with their families but since we cant avoid the situation makes as decide to live alone for better life ahead. We need to do some sacrifices for our families and love ones to make them happy.
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@siZidni (1860)
• Indonesia
2 May 09
i prefer living with my family to living alone. besides i am married already with one son. i can't wait to go home early from work just to be with him and play. that's heal my problem at work. i always feel lonely if i live alone.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
7 May 09
Hi siZidni, Having a family is the most challenging roles but very rewarding too. i am single but mostly of my friends are married and they say that married life is more beautiful and fruitful for you may able to have your own family that gives you inspiration. thanks for the respond.
@anneshirley (1517)
• Philippines
2 May 09
I am 26 and I don't have my own family yet and I am living with my parents. There are times that I wanted to move out and try to do things on my own but I have to consider on who will look after my parents if I am gone. They are old already and I want them to experience the best of life nowadays and my home is strategically located anywhere. It is near the market, church, school and even malls. Actually, I am just a few meters away from work, I can simply walk back and forth if I want to. These are the reasons why I still live with my parents and if I may add, it is still best if you're with your family. It just feels great!
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
7 May 09
Hi anneshirley, you are so lucky for everything you need is very near in your place, i think no need to relocate your self and of course it is better to live with parents . Thanks for the respond.
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
I always thought that I wanted to live alone. But that was in the distant past now. I have realized that my family is important to me and that I wanted to be with them when I grow up. So my choice would be to live with my loving family. :3
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Good choice angelicwhisper,i think our family is the one of most important people in our life, without them we are incomplete.
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@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
hi there Margarit... how are you? well, as of now i'm still living with my parents, my daughter is with me also.. i'm a single mom and as of now i can't really afford to live on my own and to have a nanny for my daughter, although, i'm working but my salary is not really enough.. my daughter is already in school and that's the one thing i have to concentrate first..yes, i agree with you, the family has much love, care, support to us and they don't live me in times of troubles and sacrifices.. i love my family.. yes, i do love to live on my own but now now.. happy mylotting...
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Hi cherriemae, Well i can already afford to live alone but still i wanted to be with my parents house, despite of the fact that i am financially able to support myself but i still want to spend my time with them until i will have my own family.
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• United States
30 Apr 09
I am still in college and living my parents for now. I was living on my own about a year ago with my boyfriend and really enjoyed that but we both lost our jobs. I like living with out my parents because they have rules and i hate them, one i hate is that i am almost 24 and not allowed to come home past 10 so if i want a night out with friends i have to stay somewhere else besides where i reside. I have to say its their house their rules so that's that and i like living on my own and can't wait to have a house one day.
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
hi lologirl2021, Time pass so quickly, i think you should focus more on your studies first for it may determine your future and have a job that you wanted. After that you can have your own life away from your parents.
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@savak03 (6681)
• United States
3 May 09
There is a lot to be said for the generational families that our parents grew up in where not only did the child have two parents at home but usually at least one set of grandparents, too. I think children benefit a great deal from that. On the other hand living alone teaches independence and self reliance. Both of these qualities are badly needed as well. For myself, I have spent my whole life taking care of someone else and now it is time for me to do some things for myself.
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@csrobins (1125)
• United States
3 May 09
I am a loner and family gets on my nerves, and I still wouldn't be able to live by myself if I had family to live with. I thrive on my alone time and can't seem to get enough of it since I am living with my parents again until I get on my feet after being able to live independently for four years before. i'm a better person to be around after I have been alone haha, but I still couldn't do it all the time.
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@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
2 May 09
I'm living together with my family sometimes I want to live on my own. We have a lot of fights and misunderstanding at home. Me and my Father always fights on things sometimes I want to leave our home so I'm have peace. If only I can but sad to say I can't afford to rent or buy a house. I can't stand the fights with my parents sometimes I want to disappear forever.
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• India
2 May 09
I would surely like to live alone. No, I don't mean to disown my parents, but I think that living alone would give me another kind of freedom and I would surely love to have that experience. I will soon be leaving home of course and I would love to see how I stand up all alone against the world. bourne
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@sambilay (175)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
there should be no such thing as living alone. you are not alone in this world. even priests are not alone. why do you have to be alone. you might loose opportunities.
• Philippines
28 May 09
Since I've been living with my family for more than 20 years I would prefer to live alone. As long as I can fully support myself. Yeah, I will miss the care of my parents but we can visit each other whenever there is a time.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
28 May 09
As long as you are happy being alone then i think it is a best choice, being alone doesn't mean being lonely for you can still find a way to entertain our self to forget them for a while. thanks for the respond.
• Philippines
29 May 09
Yes, I agree. There are a lot of things that you can do alone and can enjoy alone.
@nrn2003 (670)
• United States
2 May 09
i like living with my family right now...I haven't started my own family and I dont know if I ever will have children, but i am not sure where I want to be permanently so I dont want to buy a home and then decide in a year that I dont want to be there. I would love to have a husband to share my life with, but my boyfriend doesnt seem to want to ask yet...so patiently waiting. I like having people know about where i am and worry if I dont come home. that is a blessing to have people to care about you and love you no matter what. people take family for granted, but really they just care.:)
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
2 May 09
Hi nrn2003, Same here, id like to stay with my family until the time when i have my own family. It is a my of time, just be patience for the comes your boyfriend will propose you soon if you are destined to each other. thanks for the respond.
@nrn2003 (670)
• United States
3 May 09
Thanks alot! Im glad you have faith in a proposal :) I hope so soon :)
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
1 May 09
I am living with my family and my family includes, my siblings and my parents. I am not married yet but I think I will be sticking to my family even after my marriage because my family supported me always be it a good patch in my life or bad patches. So, I think I hae to support my family for all eternity!
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
3 May 09
hi sanuanu, Well it is up to you actually, it is so hard to stay away for our comfort zone and have a new life. As long as your parent agree that you will live with them forever then i think it is okay. Thanks for the respond
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
4 May 09
Yes, my parents would like to be living with me, I think. They have no other choice, do thy?
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
18 May 09
Hello Margarit, I prefer to live with my family or close to my family members. That's what I am doing right now. My house is just two doors from my sister's. When I was single, I stayed with my elder sister for almost 10 years. I love to live on my own and be independent but I still find that staying closer to my family members is the best option for me. I wasn't too depending on my sister but life was easier compare to living alone *smiles*
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
22 May 09
hi gr8life, I agree with you, being with family member makes life easier and more meaningful than being alone. But i also want to be independent to prove myself that i can stand with my own. thanks for the respond
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@Maryam27 (412)
• Pakistan
14 May 09
I always prefer living with the family but only if they are loving enough or they are not very mean people. Even I want to live with my in-laws after getting married but I don't know them well for now. So if family is like a family then there is no problem in living together. But if everyone is there just to grab something from you or just to create more problems and making your life miserable then I guess it;s better to be on your own and live alone.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi maryam, Well if you are married i think it is better to live with our own family than with your parent or in laws to avoid problem later. I think living with parent is only good if you are still single but when you married it is a different story. thanks for the respond.
• China
11 May 09
I prefer to live with family. But i get to work and my workplace is far away from my family. Frankly speaking, i hate to do housework, i haste to prepare my supper after the day of hard working, i hate to clean the floor. If i live with my mom, these things will never bother me.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
22 May 09
hi betty, Same here i hate household chores too, that is one of the reason why i like to live with my parents for i don't need to do those things. Thanks for the respond.
• India
10 May 09
i hav gone through both the phases. for my graduation, i hav to live without my family for whole three years. but now fortunately i got job in my city thats why i am living with my family. i do agree that living alone or without family gives you much more freedom that we certainly can't get while living with family. during those three years i was so used to that freedom that i found it difficult to adjust wid my family. but later it went good
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Hi pankajugale, Hi wanted to experience to live alone just for a while to become self reliant and be responsible to do all the thing that i do. This thing cannot be learn when you are with a family for they are always there to help you even if you dont want their help. thanks to the respond.
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
6 May 09
i grew up living with my parents and siblings. it wasn't easy as we children had to share a room and there is no privacy to speak of. also, my parents' over-protective nature means they will open my letters and grill my friends when they call. having had enough i moved out at 18 to live with a friend. after that i got my own rented place and lived alone for two years. then i got the chance to own a place and i jumped at it. the place was big enough so my parents came to live with me and sold their own place. you can say i have the best of both worlds now. living with family that cares and support yet having my own house rules. what else can one ask for?
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
7 May 09
wow, i never thought of that thing applefreak, so far i cant afford to buy my own place for my income is not enough, i hope someday i may able to do that too having the best of both worlds. thank for respond.
• India
1 May 09
Hi living in nuclear family might have independence but you cannot have that love you will get while in joint family.I belive joint family is better than nuclear family.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
3 May 09
hi satvinder, Welcome to mylot, well it depend on you actually and what kind of family you have for you are the one will live with them. Thanks for the respond.