Helping others because of love and care and being turned away in the end.

Hi mnk202 I had a friend in college time and his father passed away nearing to the semester exams. i felt sympathy for him as he was just an average student and did not wanted that situation to ruin his life. Before all this happened I sort of admired him but it was not love. I pffered my assistance to him and he took advantage of that. He thought I was inlove with him, he made use of me and I was willing to do it even I knew he was just takin advantage and he too used to share with me many things that were troubling him. I used to give him caurage by saying leave all those aside and concentrate in your studies. I gave him alots of support study wise and he sort of showed me indication that he loved me. When I asked him one day he just trew word at me and said I did all this for him to love me in return which is not true. He hurt me lot with his words and he even added his caption in msn as Sincerity is notwhen we expect something in return for a help done. I did not expect anything, I did it sincerely but to his eyes he could not see anything done but my mistake of assuming he loved me. Thanusha

I agree with you. Everyone in the worle ,someone maybe suffer trouble. We should give some help to them. So when we suffer trouble,they can get us some help. If we do that,the world can more beautiful.

humans are really like that. we have many behavioral problems. sometimes, the behavior you're talking about will lead to gaps between people. im referring to lack of appreciation and consolation. that's the downside of it. when you help don't expect people to return the favor.it will just make you sick and break your heart.Many of us feel that we have to provide the best life for our loved ones, so to satisfy this desire of being the best parent/sibling. we don't see the effect after. we sometimes fail to understand that these will become the root cause of some of their behavior problems. they tend to be more dependent and worst would not even say thank you or any expression of gratitude. so if I were you i won't be expecting anything anymore. just don't plant any bad feelings for them. let GOD do the revenge and not you. anyways, GOD will reward you in HIS due time.

I know what you are talking about. Its hard when you give and give and give and no one ever wants to return the favor. I guess after awhile, you need to take a minute to decide if the people you waste your time on are really worth all that you sacrafice. Here is a good article about Identifying people in your life that are toxic. I think you will enjoy it. http://ehow.com/how_4947820_identify-toxic-people-life.html Good luck to you.

I think the golden rule here is if you're going to help someone, do not expect anything in return. Too often we think that just because we have helped someone then we are entitled to be compensated for our help. But that's not how the world works these days. There are people out there that purely use you to get what they want. If they see that you are weak and always say yes I'll help you, then ofcourse they will abuse your kindness to them. Another thing is consider your motive behind helping them. Yes you may say because I love them but are you helping them for your glory or are you genuinely concerned and that you are doing this not of your own accord? People fall into this trap all time as we all have that mentality that oh if I help then everyone will think I am the good guy.. So next time you want to help someone, examine your motive and dont help because you want others to see you're good. Do it because it is the right thing to do and don't expect any favours in return. If the person you helped abandons you when you need their help, then don't worry about it.. at least the next time they come to you for help you will know how to deal with them...