Someone you thought loved you? What did they do that was hurtful?

Canada
May 3, 2009 1:46pm CST
I would have to say for me personally this all dates back to my ex husband...He has lied to me and I'm finding out that our entire relationship and marriage was a lie that in itself is the worse and most hurtful thing anybody can do... But I think the most hurtful thing he said to me had to of been what he said 3 weeks after we lost our baby and I had a emergency life threatening c section to get her out! I will give some background, He stayed home with me and the kids to help out plus grieve himself and was excellent really good...He went back to work and before going says to me Hun if you need me at all please call I will come home and help...I had back up people and friends that were here and willing to come here and help I made it through the first week with my 1 year old! On the Friday she was soooo crabby I was doing way too much physcially I was in so much pain...My husband only worked til 2:30 p.m. on Fridays and I thought about it and tried so hard to make it til then...Around lunch time I couldn't take it anymore so I called him...Or it was 1 I can't remember now...I explained to him what I was feeling and he replies...Do you need me to come home right now or can you wait til I get off work...Well I've never in my life been so hurt by someones words as I was then I started to cry and said don't bother then if it's that big of a deal and hung up with him and called my best friend balling! Please share your stories have you had anything that was really hurtful in a relationship said or done to you!
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
3 May 09
Is a simple story, he lie that loved me, i can t forgive him for this, story come and go, he want just fun, i was stupid to belive him. Now i lose all my trust in everybody, thanks to him. But in life all is relative, was just my guilt because i belived him. He is just a man who want joy, nothing more.
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• Canada
3 May 09
I can absolutly relate to how you are feeling that is exactly how I felt when I was with my ex husband...I know about trusting and believing but there is something I've learnt it's them that have the problem not us we did everything we could we are good people and deserve better!
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• Canada
3 May 09
Very true, you are not responsible for anyone else's actions or words, just your own! It stinks when someone burns you, but as long as your true to yourself that's the main thing!
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• Canada
3 May 09
Hi Hun! I remember you phoning me after that happened and I couldn't believe he had actually said that to you! I have had quite a few hurtful things said to me, but I guess the worst thing would be when a man I loved with all my hear "came clean" and told me he had cheated on me! That was hard to hear, get over, and be able to trust in him again after that!
• Canada
3 May 09
Yea, it's pretty hard to hear! I appreciate you lending an ear though as I desperately needed to tell someone and share my feelings as I was SOOOOOO mad at him I sure as heck didn't want to talk to him ... that is why we broke up cuz I couldn't handle it anymore, it hurt too bad, and my trust was gone!
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• Canada
3 May 09
Of course I will always be here for you and I thank-you for listening to me complain daily still about my ex husband lol!
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• Canada
3 May 09
I can't believe he said it either but to be honest there are a great many things that he has done or lack of doing that I still can't believe...I remember you calling me when that happened I don't know what that is like personally I can only imangine how that hurt!
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