what is the best gap between husband and wife in age?

China
May 4, 2009 3:31am CST
There is an old Chinese saying:"if the wife is three years older than her husband,they will have a smart baby!"but most people hope husband much older in modern society!Some scientists discovered that 14 years gap between husband and wife is the best.But people often say that three years gap may bring about generation gap .The larger gap in age,People usually write the expected age range on his Personal Ads.That shows age is important for husband and wife.What is the age gap between you and your partner?If you are not married,what is your ideal age gap?
18 responses
@dpk262006 (41806)
• Delhi, India
4 May 09
Five years gap between the boy and the girl is the idle one. The boy should be elder to the girl and this way their marriage is likely to proper more.
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@Dasari100 (3801)
• Anantapur, India
4 May 09
I think if it is better bleow five years because long age makes them not understand each of them so you have given good points to us my friend. they need to think and get good one.
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• India
5 May 09
I not married and i prefer same age or 1 or 2 years less. Not more than that. 14 years!! Either of them has to suffer when the other one passes away. 14 years gap will lead to that for sure. 14 years is totally insane according to me.
• India
5 May 09
Please delete this response.. I couldn`t do it. I`m sorry
@viga01 (28)
• United States
4 May 09
My first husband was 13 years older than I was. We had a horrible marriage and didn't get along at all. I don't think that was so much do the age difference than it was really to the fact that we were just not at all well suited for each other. (And the fact that he enjoyed the company of other women more than he enjoyed my company.) My second husband is 10 years older than I am. We are soulmates, get along really well, and have a pretty great marriage. (Of course, it has its ups and downs like any other, but overall we're very happy together.) My parent's are also 10 years apart, with my dad being the older spouse. I think any age difference is fine, really. It only matters what the partners themselve think about it as to whether or not it will have any effect on how good the marriage is.
• China
4 May 09
We see eye to eye on this!
@nigelamy (11)
• China
6 May 09
My girl is ten days older then me. Sometimes we don't get alone well with each other,we even argue. I treat her as a elder sister,however she intend to be innocent and want me to take care of her like a big brothe or even father. So I just feel abnormal sometimes . In my opinion a boy should older then a girl.
• India
5 May 09
I think age gap is not matter, mentally satisfaction is every thing. I am elder than my girl friend, but we are a very happy couple, we are confident about each other.. We love each other very much. I think it is very boring if i am 14 year senior than my partner, when she is in teenage, in that time i am a 32 year old men, not a boy. how funny. Actually I dont know scientist what is saying?? But in my personal life experiences I am very happy with my girl friend after she older than me.
• Finland
5 May 09
My last post sounds so "hummy-flummy", "whishy-waschy" :)
• Finland
5 May 09
if there is even a somewhat of an sientific answer to this one (and taking the indivual out of it) I suppose the Womans "mind" is older than the mans. The man is a couple years behind in developing his "true" self. with "true"self I would say his basic personality, basic views of himself/others/the world around him. And everybody has done this by the midtwentys. So after that I canĀ“t see that this would even matter... But as marrage is an "induvidal act" the individual "mind" of the two getting married must apply...
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
5 May 09
I would say an ideal age gap should be around 4 years, though it should not matter if there is love and respect in the relationship. My age is 5 years younger than my husband and my son is pretty smart. It is how you bring up your children that matters. yes, i agree in mixed marriages, i.e. of different casts, the offsprings are cleverer. Ive seen and noticed it. If the age gap is vast, say 15 years, then they belong to two different generations and may not h old good in the long term.
• India
5 May 09
I think The best age gap betwen the husband and wife should be a miniumum of three years. I think that this is the best age difference.
• India
5 May 09
I`m not married. I`d prefer same age or 1 or 2 less. There`ll be a unilateral thinking in the minds only if the partner is of the same trend. If there is a gap of 14 years either of them has to lose their partner early and suffer to live a life alone if the children forsakes him/her. 14 years is utter idiotic according to me. Just imagine a girl in her mid 20s getting married to a 40 year old guy. Its totally insane.
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
4 May 09
my sister's husband 8 year older than my sister, but he doesn't like her. my wife are several years older than his husband , some lived better , some lived worse.
@kodigo (171)
• Philippines
4 May 09
My belief is the husband should be 2 years older because there is a research done regarding matter. And scientists found out that women is 2 years advance intellectually and emotional than man for 2 years. Now having such kind of gap between the two, if the husband is 2 years older it will appear that this couple just have the same age.
@mzj033y (185)
• United States
4 May 09
There is this rule for the males actually that they should date half plus seven of their age. But i don't believe in that. I don't care about the age gap. All I care about if whether my boyfriend or husband will love me and care for me. I am currently twenty and will be turning twenty one soon. If rules follow, I should find someone that is 28 or 29. The person I'm "with" now is currently that age. He's been really good to me, really caring. But sometimes he doesn't understand what will make me happy in life. I just wish he was here so that we can settle our problem. I don't have an ideal age gap. I just mind that he must be older than me. I will not date younger men. I never heard of that Chinese saying before, maybe I should do some research myself. Anyway, all I care is that he loves me for the way I am and I have nothing else I can ask.
• United States
4 May 09
my husband and I are 1 1/2 years apart in age. the gap is perfect to me because we have so much in common. my previous husband was 8 years older than me and it was a disaster because he turned out to be not as youthful as I am. the generation gap was too extreme. I think as long as both people are secure in who they are and are ready to be married it is better to be closer in age. that is just my personal experience and what I have observed from other couples that i know.
• United States
4 May 09
My husband is almost exactly 1 year older than I am. I dont think there is a perfect age gap though. My grandmother was 1 year older than my grandfather. They were happily married for 59 years before my grandmother passed away. My brother-in-law is 2 years older than my sister. This year is their 9th anniversary and they are still quite happy. My other brother-in-law is almost 25 years older than my sister. They make a fantastic couple. They have been married for 4 years. It really isnt the age that makes the relationship. It is all about the people in the relationship!
• United States
4 May 09
The age gap thing doesnt matter to me. I think if you and that person are happy together and thats who you want to be with then do it. My husband and I are 5 years apart. Our kids are smart and that's because we always interact with them, and give things constructive and educational even when they don't realize it. Things change over the years, but there are ways around the old ways. Until now I really didn't realize how big an age gap made a difference in people lives past and present.
• Philippines
4 May 09
Well, for me, age doesn't matter as long as you and your partner are getting along each other... and also it must be compromised and understanding... believe me... look, if there are some best gaps, how come a lot are getting separated or divorced? think of it.