Have you ever have a friend be double sided?
May 5, 2009 11:26am CST
My ex husband now lives with mutual friends of ours about 2 and half hours away...I will give some background here as to what is going on...My apologies if this turns into another lengthy post.... The friend that my ex husband lives with now is the same friend that he ran to when his ex wife left them and they were also friends as well...My ex husband is so immature and self-centered....He cares only about himself and noone else...He has 3 kids well 4 if you count baby we lost together...He has 3 with me (including baby lost) And one with his other ex wife! He at first ran to my Best friends house but I won't get into great detail there...I was on the phone with this new roomie and she says quote tell him he has no place to live here...When he leaves my best friend guess where he goes yup welcomed with open arms into that place...Ok I don't care that he's there and that they made up but what reallllllly gets my boat is that she blocks me doesn't have any contact with me and when I email her asking her why...She gets defensive is defending him...He is trying to change and be a better person trying so hard to convince me he misses the kids and so on and so forth...Anyways she said she realized that was wrong of her! Then she messages me one day and tells me that she is not taking sides and I'm just as much of a friend as he is...So I believe her...CONFUSING...Another thing I should mention is she grew up with her Dad for the same thing that my ex husband is doing to his own kids! Anyhoo My Ex husband is so immature that he didn't help me get my name of the joint account and there was a HUGE debt to be payed with it I finally got him to go and pay it but that didn't stop the calls from collections...I was in the hospital with my gull bladder attack and my son tells me they phoned again...I phoned my ex at work I was VERY polite and said hi sorry to bother you at work but I was just wondering if you had payed the bank I got another call...We talked he reassured yes he did...Anyways I tell him I'm in the hosptial and what is going on...Right away he asks who is watching the kids? I said My oldest is watching my youngest right now but your mom is but not like you care..He says that not the case I'm like well not talking to me isn't helping...Call me later we will talk more...HE NEVER DID! But then I start getting nasty texts from his roomie...That I should stop blaming him for being in the hospital and stop bi**ch** about the bank and she just goes on and on...I sat there and thought Your not taking sides???? Ya right... Sorry for the lost post take care all!
5 May 09
I know what you went through with her and I am so sorry for that! I have had people be double sided to me before! It's not fun! I have had someone sit there and tell me things about one person, and then when I'd discuss it with the person these things were said about they told me they were told the opposite! I hate when people lie and can't just be honest and truthful especially about feelings!
5 May 09
Although it's also known that a person who lies so much doesn't even know they are doing it becomes a habit I don't know how true that is but I've heard that when people lie over and over and over it becomes second nature to them!