I'm not a mom

@missybear (11396)
United States
May 7, 2009 7:03am CST
Every mother's day people say "Happy Mother's day" and I say "Thank you" I'm not a mom but I don't want to tell that to everybody who wishes me Happy Mother's day.Is that wrong of me? People just assume that you are a mother. So to all you Mother's out there, Happy Mother's Day in advance. Give me your opinion please
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• United States
7 May 09
But you could consider yourself a "mom" if you are an Aunt? My Aunt acts like a Grandmother to my kids and she has no kids of her own. Don't worry it's pretty common to assume that most of us women have had a family. Just take it with a grain of salt, as they have no bad intentions tward you they just don't know.
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• Netherlands
7 May 09
I agree with you.
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
7 May 09
You right, but if I tell them I'm not a mom they want to know why not. That's a whole nother story.
• United States
8 May 09
just say Thank You despite not being one or say to them you are a "fur momma' (cat, dog, & the alike) and leave it at that. Or even if it's at work and just say you are leaving your personal life at the door. You are right though I'm sure you don't want to be cross examined why you don't have any kids. There are many reasons not to become a mother and if they cannot accept any of your answers without you getting into details... that's too bad.
@Sador88 (70)
• Netherlands
7 May 09
I can understand why you don't want to tell them you're not a mother. But, I don't think people will say it only to woman who actually have a kid, just to anyone. So don't feel guilty, they don't mean anything with it, I suppose.
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
7 May 09
I'm sure they don't but sometimes it makes me a little sad because I don't have any children.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
25 May 09
I was also wished Happy Mother's day but I too don't have any children, but I am a Godmother of alot of my nieces and nephews. So I just take it in stride and accept it. Before that I always claimed that my pets were my babies..olol
@missybear (11396)
• United States
25 May 09
That's what I said too when I had my dog.
• United States
26 May 09
yea but i don't like being a grand mother to her cats lol
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
27 May 09
Ahhh come on they love you.. How can you dish your adopted grandbabies..lol MEOW!MEEEOW!
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
7 May 09
happy mothers day,we didnot want a child during the early stages of our marraige by choice.but i would often not disclose the reason,i didnt want to hear the crap from elders blah blah.we had our first child after 5years.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
7 May 09
You funny
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
8 May 09
according to some elders,the main purpose of marraige was procreaation(so i was sinning or rebelling againstGOD) now that i have people say that population is way too much and i failed in my part to help mother nature,guess i cant win!!!
@missybear (11396)
• United States
8 May 09
You're a winner in my book
@wildcat48 (782)
• United States
24 May 09
Sorry m.bear,i can loan you someif you want me to i have9 of them
@missybear (11396)
• United States
25 May 09
Oh no, I think I'm good. Wow, you must have had a house full of children. I bet it was great on the holidays.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
8 May 09
Hey missy! I know what you mean! People just assume I'm am mom and a grandma sometimes too! I just get tired saying that I'm not either so I also just say thanks and the same to you! I am a cat mama and depending who says it to me they would already know that! But, I know exactly how you feel on Mothers Day! And Happy Mothers Day to all the Moms out there from me too!
@missybear (11396)
• United States
8 May 09
I was my doggies mom for 10 years and sometimes I feel like I'm sconibears mom.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
8 May 09
Hey missy! I'll bet you do! Hope he gets you something nice for Mother's Day! lol
@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
7 May 09
Thank-you. No, you don't have to explain yourself to everyone if you don't want too. It is rude of them to assume something without knowing for sure. I once asked a lady how long she was pregnant. I thought it was at least 7 months. She was not pregnant. Oh I was so embarrassed! This has tough me to be more aware of my own business. I meant well, but still it is none of my business. Luckily she was not angry, she could laugh about it. I also asked a lady not too long ago if she had children. I wish I had not. First she said no. Then she almost started to cry and said she did not know exactly. I seemed to have hit a nerve there. It was so sad. I was afraid to talk further. These are very personal issues. What is normal for some is not normal for others. Me for one, am going to be more careful with my questions. But, in your case, I would guess the people mean well. Take care, have a nice day.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
7 May 09
Thanks for responding. Were you the one that asked me if I was pregnant. Someone asked me that once too, I told them "No I'm just fat". They felt bad too.. Looking on the bright side now it made me loose 20 pounds.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
7 May 09
lol you have furrbabies dont you :P Your mom to them.. i dunno why people assume that.. or is it they get you mixed up with someone else ? *shrug* start replying you too even to the boys :P lol
@missybear (11396)
• United States
7 May 09
Furrbabies? I probably have some and don't know it. Ha Ha
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
8 May 09
hhehehe pets. furry babies. ;)
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
25 May 09
There is no reason for you to say that you are not a mom, in fact I think it is insensitive for others to assume that just because you are female you are a mother. I know when I was going through infertility that the worst day in my life was mothers day and I well hid in my bed all day long just to avoid situations like that.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
25 May 09
It is kinda sad come mothers day, but I'm ok with it otherwise.
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
23 May 09
Hey there missy Bear - it seams that tonight is your night:D sometimes i have posting spreads at my friends (or to my new upcoming friends :D) as i don't use the notifier - it bugs me. In my country, mom's day is in the same day with woman's day, so all women are celebrated and there are no big problems about it ;)
@missybear (11396)
• United States
23 May 09
right on
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@sconibear (8010)
• United States
7 May 09
you're my Mama Bear!!!
@missybear (11396)
• United States
7 May 09
I you too
@Beertjie (978)
• South Africa
7 May 09
Every woman is a mother in some way or another...LOL Woamn are always the caring one andeven if you just have a pet, then you are a mom. Just take the best wishes instead of repeating yourself over and over again. Only if a man that seems atractive whishes you happy mothers day then you can reply with "I not married", or something like that. OOPS, if you are married, ignore him as well.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
7 May 09
Something to think about, Thanks