Infidelity

United States
May 7, 2009 10:13am CST
If you saw your best friend's spouse cheating, would you tell your friend...or do you think you should just let your friend find out another way? I don't think I would tell, but I might say something that would leave a question in her mind so that she might investigate herself.
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10 responses
• United States
7 May 09
I would have to tell my friend!! I would find an appropriate time to do so, and explain what I saw. Maybe my impression could be wrong,were they out for a business lunch? I would hope that my friends would do the same for me. I know that I would be hurt more if I found out later that they knew what was going on and didn't tell me.
• United States
7 May 09
I would have to tell my friend, I would not be able to sit back and watch and not say something. I would probably tell her that I had seen her husband and let her know that there was a female with him. This way she can draw her own conclusions. It might be something innocent as a business lunch. I would want my friends to tell me.
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9 May 09
first thing i do is collect some proof but taking pictures something like and show it to my friend , coz even though we are best friends obviously its really hard to beileve that their spouse is cheating so they might not take it serious in the first place
@Maryam27 (412)
• Pakistan
8 May 09
I would do the same as you thought Maryanna, i won't straightly go and tell her as i know how earth shattering this could be for her but i would ask her a few questions about her life, spouse and about her trust on him and then leave a blue or something if she needs it. And tell her later when she finds out herself.
@larish (2196)
• Philippines
7 May 09
I would tell my friend that I saw her husband with this girl. I would describe how the girl looks like and where I saw them. I will do it casually as if I am not thinking that the two has a relationship. I will let my friend to the analyzing. And of course, I will make sure that my friend's husband know that I saw them by approaching and greeting them with a simple "hi" and asking my friend's husband where is my friend (his wife). lol
• United States
7 May 09
I would definitely tell my friend because my loyalty lies with her and she needs to know. I would want to know if I were her. That way she has the option to stay or not. After I let her know the reality of her situation, she can choose to ignore it or not, and believe me or not. Some people may say that's not my place, but if that person is a true friend to me, I can't let her continue going through her relationship looking like a fool, and knowing that I knew about it all along. The only way I wouldn't get involved is if both her and her spouse were good friends with me. Then, I would have to stay out of it but try to drop hints that they both need to be honest with each other. It is just not a good place to be in.
• United States
7 May 09
I would definitely tell my friend. Actually, this has happened. My husband and I were driving down the street and we saw my friend's fiancee walking out of the tatoo parlor with another woman. It took me a couple of days to decide whether to tell her or not. But when I did, she was thankful to me. Of course, I didn't come right out and say that he was cheating on her. I just asked if his sister was in town, and said that I thought I saw the two of them.
• United States
7 May 09
It is funny this discussion comes up because I was just talking about this with my friend. My friend who is a guy says he will keep his mouth shut and not say anything because it is not his place. So I asked him if he knew his mom was cheating on his dad would he say something and he said no and the reason he gave is who is he to say something and mess everything up. Obviously they are doing stuff for a reason so why jump into the middle of it? In the back of mind I kind of understand where he is coming from but at the same time I would not want to see my friend go through something like that and not tell her.
• United States
7 May 09
I would tell my friend. I wouldn't want to lose her friendship, hopefully she believes me. It's not easy to find out that the one you are with is cheating on you, you don't believe anyone cause you get into your denial of "no, they wouldn't do that to me. etc."
@jewl1126 (102)
• United States
7 May 09
You bet I would tell my best friend about it! If I found out that my friends knew about my hubby cheating, but didn't tell me, I would probably lose complete trust in them, as well as, my trust in my husband. Your friends are supposed to have your back. So, you bet that I would DEFINITELY tell my friend.