The feeling of failing to attend my sister's wedding

@yonkie (440)
Philippines
May 9, 2009 10:16am CST
Last June 2008, my only sister had her wedding ceremony. All of my family members were there except me. I was not able to attend it because of conflict with my job. I knew already the date of the wedding. I was then starting with my new job. I cannot take a leave or be absent because I am still new and it is not allowed. I was planning to quit the job but my sister disagreed. I really felt so bad I was not able to attend it because if God permits, my sister will only have that celebration once in her life. I really think I was not a good sister. I am so sad and I promise myself not to miss any once in a lifetime event anymore especially involving my family. Have you failed to attend a once in a life event of your sister? Please share it. Thank you!
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@larish (2196)
• Philippines
14 May 09
I was able to attend my eldest sister's wedding. But the thing that I regretted is that I wasn't able to help her during her wedding preparation. I was very busy then with my work. I prioritizes my work because I thought it was the right thing to do. When I got married last year, this sister of mine was very very supportive. She accompany me to buy the things I needed for the wedding. I really appreciate the time she allotted for me. Though I really feel guilty of not being able to do the same to her. But I am so happy that she didnt have any grudge on it.
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• United States
11 May 09
I announced my own wedding only 2 weeks before the date. Neither of my sisters were actually able to attend the ceremony. I dont hold it against them at all. Im sure you sister feels the same way. It sounds like you have talked to your sister about it. It also sounds like she understands completely. If she is ok with it, dont feel like a bad sister. I understand your desire to go to important family events. It is always nice to make memories and share good times. Unfortunately, some things get in the way. Life doesnt always go as we would like it. You cant spend the rest of your life beating yourself up about it. It wont be good for you or be helpful to your family.
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