How to tell your partner that he/she snores?

Malaysia
May 12, 2009 3:45am CST
Hi mylotters, I personally know that loud snoring can effect other people's sleep. Does your partner snores while sleeping? If yes, did you tell he/she directly about the snoring? How did they react? Do they believe you? At first my partner didn't believe and he said that I was the one who snores. Yeah, typical male response:-)..But later, he began to accepted this and gladly took some medication to help with the snoring. Nevertheless, the medicine didn't work out as I thought and he is still snoring:-) But now, I've grown accustomed to hear his snores, and I manage to get a good night sleep..:-)...What about your experience?
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@med889 (5958)
12 May 09
My partner snores while he sleeps and I told him several times, I even posted a question for a solution on yahoo answers because I love him but I also want him to let me sleep in peace because I love my dreams too. So I told him, he didn't believe at the beginning and one day I recorded his voice while he was sleeping and the next day I told him to listnen to himself, he was laughing and me too and now he makes it less and there are still times when he snores very loud that I needto wake him up;-)
• Hong Kong
12 May 09
Hello med889 But do you think he could make it less after he knew he snored when he was sleeping? I think we can't control it, as the noise was making unconsciously. ^.^
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@med889 (5958)
13 May 09
Yes you are right and I have to wake me up everytime I can hear the snoring too loud, and sometimes he behaves as if h really does not know anything about, which makes me tell me that I will again record his snoring at night ;-)
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• Philippines
12 May 09
i had a boyfriend before who starts snoring the moment he falls asleep. it used to be so loud i couldn't sleep. he knew about that and he was very apologetic. so i made a little research and applied it on him. in his case, the air vessels had to be clear so i encouraged him to sleep on his side often. if i sleep facing him or if his back is facing me... and he starts snoring, my hand will automatically reach out for his neck and do a little bit of massage at the back of his neck. this is to clear the air passage. i do it about 3 times whenever he starts snoring until it was reduced to barely audible. there are many reasons why people snore, good thing he's one of the people whom the little massage thing can work. :)
• Malaysia
12 May 09
Hey, that's a very good advice, mylesnarvaez...Thanks a lot!
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@sdas86 (6078)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 09
I will tell her directly if she snores. There are some medicines to cure snores. Maybe you could try to buy at pharmacy.
@JOIEMARVIC (2343)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
I guess the best way to let her/him know is to tell him. O do not see anything wrong about it since your partners. You are most likely aware of his/her possible reaction and understanding about this.If he/she is a little sensitive about this issues, try to talk to him/her maturely and sensibly about it.
@smileonstar (4016)
• United States
9 Jun 09
if my husband snore, then I will tell him right the way or wake him up and tell him that he is too loud, and I can't sleep. if he doesnt believe me then I will record whenever he snore again. if he still snore then another room is available for him.. ;)
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
9 Jun 09
YES... he SNORES!!!! haha... His snores are weird.. it's a closed mouth snore where the lips trembles... I tried to record a few times but to no avail as it will stop suddenly!!! Sometimes I just can't sleep through his snoring... I play his PSP... When he wakes up later in the morning, I would complain to him that his snores are distubring... LOL... Sometimes, he would clear his nose before his sleep... Seems to solve partially the problem... = Other times, i try don't do activities that would cause him to be too tired... As he would snore even louder!
• United States
13 May 09
My husband snores and I have told him that he did. He used to say he didn't snore but now he believes me when I tell him. He can snore so bad that he can be in the bedroom sleeping which is upstairs and I will be downstairs in the family room and I can hear him snore. Of course, then he tells me I can not hear him snore that far away but believe me I have.
@swerdna (117)
• United States
13 May 09
Easy...kick 'em in the back.
@Yori88 (1469)
• Philippines
13 May 09
My husband snores so loud too. When we were just new I never get a good sleep because he snores so loud. So I told him about it but he never believed me too. I told him that happens when he is so tired from work or just because he has high blood pressure sometimes. I do not know the exact reason but he never got mad when I told him that I hate snoring. When he snores I move him so that the snoring will stop and then I try to sleep. I always tell him about his snoring and to convince him more I did record his snore so that he will believe in me. When he heard the recording with matching video, he laugh and then he told he that he loves me so much more than ever. I asked him why and he said because I never kick him when he snores. His sister always kicks him when he was still single whenever he snores. After few months, I got used to his snore. Funny thing is I can't even sleep if he is not yet snoring. That bad habit turned out as good because I always seek for his snore before I could sleep. Anyway I still move him because if he snores too much maybe he is dreaming and I just want him to be back to reality. I love my husband no matter how loud he snores.
• Malaysia
13 May 09
Some people do realize they snore while some do not want to admit. If they are quite open minded, you can even joke with them by taking a voice recorder and record down their snores. It's actually quite funny but please don't do it in front of other people. It's supposed to be funny between the 2 of you. Some people need to go for operation in order to stop the snoring, while some can do so with the help of some medication. It depends on individuals actually. But if the partner does not mind the snoring, then there's no point to go for operation since there's the operation cost and the minor risk which comes with every medical operation.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
13 May 09
My hubby snores a lot! But it never affected our relationship in any way. I've been telling him that he snores and in fact during his sleep, I'm the one who changes his position from time to time to minimize his snoring. He still snores loudly and I guess I'm just getting used to it!
• India
13 May 09
i hv done one thing ..i recorded her snores and next day she lisnted and den she was more desperate to avoid such things...she consult the doctor n within a week she is fine..
@insulin (2484)
• Philippines
13 May 09
Well me and my partner really dont have problem in snoring and in fact,we found it sweet.Lol i dont know but you will think its crazy but we both snore and we are both sleeping like a rock.The funny thing is that,there are times that i wake up because of his snoring and i just touch his back a bit and then he will stop snoring,I agree that its the position of sleeping but anyway we are really having no arguments about it,well we understand other because we were both tired of our jobs thats why we cannot feel the loudness anymore and yes every morning i tell him his snoring and his just smiling and well i just smile also.If your experiencing it,just try touching his or her back so it will stop.
@berrys (866)
• Singapore
13 May 09
ha ha my partner snores too! i think its a guy thing. most guys do snore and it usually comes from lack of sleep, blockage of the airway , sleeping in the wrong position or just because he snores. every time my partner snores i move his head or his body to a different position and he stops but if he starts again in a bit i just whack him sometimes it does the trick. ha ha he knows he snores and he says when i really can't stand it to tell him and he will go do something about it. so far i do not want him to do anything yet cause i think i can handle it but if it gets too far i will ask him too. good luck on a full night's sleep. bye.
@Trensue (3707)
• United States
12 May 09
Like they can do anything about it anyway? Most medication is a rip off. I say everyone put in some earplugs and get a good nights rest. Maybe I am too simple minded again. Better take a my lot break!
@HelloMickey (1663)
• Hong Kong
12 May 09
Hello neoplanet9 I went camping with my hubby before we got married. I heard he snored when he was sleeping, and I told him the following day. Why don't tell him? I just told him a truth. And he said he knew it~ It is not difficult to tell your partner that he/she snores, but I think we should tell him/her this very early.
@yetigirl (76)
• Spain
12 May 09
Well, snoring is more usual than people think. I can tell because my husband snored. I mean, he still snores, but much less. Talking about this matter is not that difficult if we make some previous research to find the reason of snoring. If he smokes, has allergies that affect his normal breathing, high blood pressure, he's a little overwheighted or even tends to sleep upsided instead of sided, these are the common factors that originates snoring. Instead of telling him that he snores, make him questions like "have you slept well?", "feel your throat soared or your mouth dry when you wake up?", the good way is to make him realize he snores but not telling him straight. Oh, noone grows accustomed to hear snores, it's like smoking, sure the night he doesn't snore you sleep even better ;) My husband, as I said, snores, but he smoked. Before quitting it, he made walls tremble, I had to move him to sleep sided because it reduced somehow his snoring. I grew accustomed to his snoring, but realized that the nights he didn't snore we both slept much better. I told him kindly, telling him that when I was about to have a cold or the flu, or at least having some temperature or migraine, I snored, and he probably snored a bit (lied but he got it, that I have spent some nights sleepless not because I couldn't sleep but because his snoring). He quitted smoking, and now his snoring frequency has reduced to be occasional, because of very stressing days. Hope this helps you a bit. Work together and you two will get through snoring better :)
@frtwome (239)
• United States
12 May 09
I've been married for more than 30 years to my husband, and he has snored every single night of all those years, and to this day, he will still deny that he is a snorer. We just recently had a friend from out of state, come to visit us, and spent the night at our home. The next morning when I was fixing breakfast for us all, I her telling teasing my husband about how she heard him snoring all night. And he says NO it wasn't me snoring, I don't snore, you must have been hearing things, and then he was blaming it on my poor little cats. He told our friend that our cats were doing all the loud snoring. I don't know that I have ever really gotten use to his snoring, it's just something that I have to live with. Whenever it reallys gets to me, I just get up and sleep on the couch.
• India
12 May 09
well i too snore ,, actually very lees,but that is what i think so. i remember that i recently vent to a summer camp and there i had to sleep in a tent with other six people inside , only i was the one who snored in that tent so no one could get a good sleep. at first when they told me that i used to snore , i didn't believed it at all.but the next day when i woke up they made me see a video in which i was snoring, i laughed a lot at that time and excepted the fact . maybe you can also make a small video on your partners snoring and then when he wakes up show him. this will be the best and the lightest way to tell some one about his problem.