Adoption
By maximax8
@maximax8 (31053)
United Kingdom
May 13, 2009 8:56am CST
On television they have a program that has been following prospective adoptive parents in their application to be approved. A man is trying to get the prospective adoptive parents to think about possibly adopting one of the the harder to place children. These are sibling groups, older children, children with special needs and children of mixed heritage. Many babies are with foster parents and they are not adopted until they are over three years old due to all the paperwork and court of law decisions. The older a child gets the less likely it is anyone will want to adopt them. Some teenagers spoke about having up to 30 different foster placements in their lifetime. Some children have behavior problems due to emotional difficulties earlier in their life.
A couple adopted a three year old girl. They already have an older daughter which the lady had medical treatment to get pregnant with.
A single lady of 35 years old adopted an older boy. She didn't want to married but wanted to have a child.
Today two gay men will seek be approved to adopt a child on the program.
What do you think of adoption?
Who do you think should be able to adopt?
Would you ever consider adopting a child?
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7 responses
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
13 May 09
I would love to adopt but it's hard for families in my pay grade. I don't mind the hard to place kids since I know my own so well. But still... I would have to find someone who would do it privately and with out wanting tons of cash (like a lot of private adoptions end up being)
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
14 May 09
Even though you could afford to do you would adopt a child if you were more wealthy. In my home country adoption is free if the person or couple are adopting one or more children from my home country. There are fees to pay it is an international adoption.
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@frankiecesca (2489)
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13 May 09
think anyone who is suitable should be allowed to adopt - there should be no people discrimnated against unless it is a very valid reason to not allow them to adopt a child!
@frankiecesca (2489)
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15 May 09
I can imagine! I sometimes wonder how some people can even think they do a good job as a parent and then you have others who would make excellent parents yet can't get pregnant or adopt!
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
14 May 09
I am an adopted child and was considered a "hard to place" baby becuase of my mixed race...I'm all for adoption BUT I do have issues about how things are handled...I think that screening should be done carefully, finding out about the potential parents habits, background etc NEEDS to be done...I also feel that follow up visits for the first couple yrs should also be done...AND I am a firm believer that if a person/couple adopts a child OUTSIDE of their race, they should be required to teach that child about their born heritage.
would I adopt? ABSOLUTELY!! I would love to adopt several children from around the world..LOL my husband says that if I could have my way I'd be the next Josephine Baker and have my very own "Rainbow Tribe" and he's right...and I'd love it!
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
14 May 09
I am sorry that you were "hard to place". I couldn't imagine why because mixed race is so lovely. It is unfortunate that there are not enough mixed race prospective parents available. I see no reason why a mixed race child shouldn't be adopted to a white person or couple. I heard about a Hindu couple getting approved to adopt and then they weren't able to adopt child. There were some Muslim children that needed to be adopted but no Hindu children. If a child is adopted he or she would enjoy learning about his or her original culture. I can imagine your family that you would have if you were more wealthy. A "rainbow tribe" sounds delightful. I am vegan and so I know what it is like to be in the minority. I think anyone suitable should be able to adopt.
@mymaria (379)
• Philippines
14 May 09
adoption is really the best opportunity for those children who have not a family anymore. adoption can make us easy to have our own child, through this we can build a nation with a strong fundamental of life. all those children are not lonely and becoming self pity.
i hope for those who planning to adopt a child just put it in your mind that they are not just a babies but an angel given by God. so that they can experience what love is especially from their parents.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
14 May 09
Every child is a special gift and it is lovely when each one has a loving home. One of my friends suggested that God sends a baby and another friend thinks each child chooses their parents. In the case of children that are needing to adopted they have often had a miserable time of life in their past. Some of the children might need therapy.
@ccarabuena (442)
• Cebu, Philippines
14 May 09
Of course why not? If only I have enough money to adopt as many as I can why not?
All child needs parents to be with to call their own MAMA or PAPA. I know they've been longing to have parents and be taken cared of you know.. Whether the couple is single, lesbians or gays as long as they are capable of feeding those kids why hinder them? The reasons it takes long to process the adoption maybe because they are really accessing thoroughly the capability of a couple or the one who's willing to adopt.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
14 May 09
I wish that the system of applying for adoption could be a lot quicker. I think that having good references is important and that a person should be seen as suitable by a social worker. They could the foster the child or the sibling group and the social worker could check that the person or couple is doing well plus the child is happy. I think that in this modern world any suitable person should be able to adopt.
@inkstainedheart (455)
• United States
14 May 09
I have always wanted to adopt...when I was younger, I thought it would be selfish to have kids of my own while there are tons of children out there with no family. Although I would like to have children of my own now, I would still like to adopt at least one child. These kids deserve loving homes.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
14 May 09
I think you are going to make an excellent adoptive parent. You say at least one so you might possibly consider adopting a sibling group. There are so many children that don't have a family that would love to have someone like you as a parent. I wish all the children find adoptive parents that make them happy.
@navonly (901)
• India
13 May 09
Adoption is not a child play or game, that every one can play. Its one of the most important and tough responsibility that one have to bare. A full proof life and finance planning is needed before anyone even think of adopting anyone.
Anyone in this world can be able to adopt a child. But as I said above, they need to be capable of doing so.
I would definitely consider adopting a child, but right now I need my own child. If I plan for a second one. I'll definitely adopt one.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
14 May 09
I am a primary school teacher and I did a maternity cover at one school. The teacher that was pregnant and told me she had asked to adopt a needy boy but had been refused. She was married, had a large house and was a lovely person. One of the children that I taught in that class was fostered. I found out the foster parents really wanted to adopt her but were refused due to the husbands age. Good luck having your own child and adopting a second if you wish to do so.
