unerstanding men, a question for the guys out there...

United States
May 17, 2009 8:14am CST
ok, my boyfriend drinks, (not the problem) his ex was mean she used to get mad and even hit him all the time, the problem is he assumes that I will react the same way. I tell him over and over I am not mad, and I am sincere, if I was mad I would tell him. yesterday morning he really wasent himself, he said he was going to either pick me up after work so we could go out or come over so we could spend time together. since then he hasent answered my calls except 1 at 8:30pm. that was the last time I heard from him, but he called my friend at 11:30 to see if he could stay there because he was afraid I was mad at him. he never went there either. I am not like his ex. I dont care if he goes out I dont care if he stays out. I care if he avoids me because he thinks I am going to be mad. as long as when he comes home he doesnt try to start fights or hit me were good. so guys, how do I get my man to realize that I am not mad and I love him. our friends have told him too. I honestly believe he should be able to come and go as he pleases and if he wants to be here he will. I am not worried about him cheating on me. He told my friend he wasent comming here because he was afraid I am mad. I did get mad at him once when he got drunk and kept telling me I was mad and I wasent, and I told him that I was mad.
2 responses
• India
17 May 09
i quite cried in my heart reading your touching love story , but reading the first response, a smile came on my face , because we men think that it is very difficult to understand women and you think it is hard to understand us. well i would like to give you a suggestion. your boyfriend is just too afraid to get betrayed again in his life. i think the most best possible way to make him realize how much you love him is that you always take care of him , weather he keeps hurting your feeling , but one day he will realize how much you take care of thin and will start loving you.try this one , just be with him when he is not drunk and feels alone, and make him fell secure when he is with you.best of luck for your lovely life.
• United States
17 May 09
thanks. I believe that he really loves me because when we are together he tells me that he loves me and he really treats me well. I think you are right in time he will realize that I am genuine and mean what I say. I just wish he would realize I am not her or even close to being like her.
@Polly1 (12651)
• United States
17 May 09
I know I am not a man, I just wanted to stop by and wish you luck. Who can figure men out, I don't think even they can figure themselves out. They probably feel the same way about us.
• United States
17 May 09
lol. it is good to hear from you. I think I am gonna need alot of luck with this one. I think you are so right! have a great day.