help for children of divorce parents

Being the kid of divorced parents can make you feel like you're torn in many different directions. You don't know who to believe. Each parent wants to badmouth the other and you don't know if you should take sides or not. After a while, all this pressure on a kid can get to be too much and they will just decide to shut one parent out completely so that they don't have to deal with it. Also, all the moving around from one residence to another gets stressful and old. Kids of divorced parents need outside support. They need to understand that they are not at fault for what happened and that they are not at fault for loving both parents equally. They don't have to choose one over the other. Parents need to be careful about what they say around their kids about the other parent, too. More than anything, though, preventative measures need to be taken so that people don't need to get divorced. People need to learn how to look for the right mate and how to nurture a happy marriage once they are together. Also, these days, people tend to give up on marriage before they give it their best shot. That's got to change. People are being careless in their relationships and children are suffering because of it. What a crying shame!

My parents are divorced and I was just fine with it. I never needed anything extra, people always told me i came from a broken home, but honestly I never saw it that way. My house was full of warmth and love. I am my husbands second wife and we have custody of his children from his first marriage, and issues come up once in a while, but on the whole everything is fine. All i can say is that i am there for my children. Technicly they are my step children but i dont see it that way. All i can say is that on the whole just being there for them, and help them understand it is not their fault.

it all depends on the parents. Although the fact of divorce is a trauma for many of the children, one can still arrange the situation. I firmly believe that the best thing for the children to live a good childhood depends on their parent's communications. The parents shouldnt for any reasons blame each other for what happened I think in a divorce both sides are a bit guilty, one in a way, and one in another way. They shouldnt try to turn the kids against each other. The child has the right to love and adore both parents no matter what problems exist between the couple. It is important not to use the children to harm each other.