i want my boyfreinds x to move in to my house ... comments?

United States
May 18, 2009 11:29pm CST
so ill give you the names so its easier to explain Mark-my boyfreind Jimmie-his loser brother Kylie- jimmies gf Mark dated kylie and kylie cheated on mark with jimmie, now if you met his brother it would be like oh i can see that happeneing. but since shes been with jimmie he has cheated on her non stop so you would think they would be even, mark is over it and so am i . i mean for one thing we wouldnt be together if it wasnt for them breaking up. jimmie is the lowest and worst boyfreind you could possibly have. he claims hes not cheating but thats a lie, i mean its as ovious as shoes go on the ground. soo jimmie is always getting mad at kylie for the littles things, things like she said the wrong thing. she made the wrong joke, and he gets mad i mean this is border line abusing her physically she is no doubt getting abuse mentally. constantly calling her names and pushing her yell and she cant yell back or then his mom gets int he middle and says dont do that . hes trying to change be on his side. he cant change if you beat him down! what the hell is that bull. i understand if its your baby you take care of him but what do you think goes threw her head. every day she wakes up goes to school comes back cleans the whole house and cooks and feeds animals then sleeps ont he floor. ill give you an examples of what happened this weekend.... kylie had soemthing wrong with her hey in 4 hours it got so badly hurt that it shut completly and was in 10 out of 10 pain. so the mom says take her to the hospital. jimmie says no he cant because hes been at work all day and doesnt want to do anything. so me and mark were going to out to dinner but instead we have to take her because her "loving boyfreind" is tired, now if he worked all day came home and slept it would be someone explainable. but he doesnt . so me and mark take her and the min we leave he leaves 5 mins later to go see his "friend" pauleen . who its oviously they are sleeping together. so we come back and jimmie is furious because well i guess he got some and it wasnt from her and he starts calling her the be word and my boyfreind a fing ahole how can this be right???it happens to her everysingle day and she has no were to go . shes 18 but her parents abused her and she was in fostercare a majority of her teen life. he doesnt let her talk to family really and no freinds cuz all her time is spent making his life more smooth. what would you do and would you ask her to come or just make it available?
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@beamsey (425)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Wow. Things are so messy. First of all, it's nice of you to even consider having Mark's ex move in with you. But I wouldn't say it's advisable as exes tend to muddy up the water even if the water is crystal clear. If Mark lives with you, then I'd say you definitely shouldn't offer her to move in. Not that you don't want to help, but you have to take your relationship into consideration as well. What you can do instead is to look for a place she can stay. Maybe an apartment or a dorm. If she needs help paying rent, help her find a job or offer to pay for half of the rent until she finds a job. Even if this may sound more impractical and more of a hassle to everyone, it is safer emotionally. It allows you to help Mark's ex and at the same time, give your relationship with Mark a more secure future. I'm not saying Mark will cheat on you with his ex or that they will get back together, but it's always a possibility. I've seen it happen. So before you help Mark's ex, I think it's best if you put your relationship first. After all, you can't help her if you're not okay.