why do people smoke? i you're a smoker would you justify yourself?
By cainam
@cainam (493)
Philippines
May 19, 2009 9:32pm CST
i hate people who smokes but unfortunately, my boyfried is a chain smoker and i can't hate him totally. we argue about it and i even tried him to quit but he can't coz he does'nt want to. he is a smart man but i doubt it when i see him smoking. i asked him what he can get from it and he just told me that it is the only vices he has. he is killing his self and i can't do anything with it.
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11 responses
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
20 May 09
I am a smoker, but I see no need to "justify" it. I quit for eight years, and then restarted the habit, but I do not smoke around others, especially children.
Bear in mind that you probably do not hate "smokers" but rather hate the smoking. Also, it is addictive, but can be beat. I know. As I said, I quit for eight years.
Some people, myself included, actually enjoy smoking for whatever reason. But most of us would love to quit for good, and most of respect others wishes and do not smoke around them.
Karen
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@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
20 May 09
Everyone in my family smokes. I, on the other hand, rarely smoke. Only when I really feel like it. My dad quit a few years ago but went back. My mom smokes after dinner and when in the bathroom. My sister is the smoker of all in the family, my husband going second. They say it relieves them of their stress. Whatever their reason may be, if they don't want to stop, no one can make them. LOL!
They can always do it when you're not looking. 
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@2wicelot (2945)
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29 May 09
I think most people begin to smoke as a result of peer pressure from schoolmates or other 'friends' if you can call them that. Unfortunately, most people get addicted after that and just can not quit. I think people who never ever had to smoke and thereby never got addicted are somewhat lucky. I think smoking is really terrible and probably there is no justification for it.
@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
29 May 09
I don't feel that I have to justify myself to you or anyone for smoking. It is my choice, my body, not yours.
I hate people like you who are quick to judge others, based on such little criteria, so we're even, eh? Naw, I'm better.
I don't judge people like that, any more than I pre-judge or hate someone of a certain religion, color or race. Every individual has there merits and downfalls. We are all human on this planet and therefore imperfect.
@TenmaMetsuki (452)
• Bahrain
22 May 09
I'll probably get my post ticked with the " - " sign quite a bit for this one but I think that those who smoke are weak, they're weak people, at mind and heart. I used to smoke before, when I had so many things going on and was a total wreck I smoked, but I quit. Even though I haven't smoked for like over three years now and the cravings still exist, I still didn't pick up another smoke. Why? Because I have a strong heart that can oppose the hold of nicotine on me, if everyone was strong enough they wouldn't smoke from the beginning. Especially when they smoke to relieve their stress and the like, those are the weakest.
You need to have a strong heart and mind if you want to quit, but most importantly to actually want to and not being forced to.
@biman_s (1060)
• India
20 May 09
I also don't like people who smoke. I am not a smoke but all my friends are. Smoking generally starts by seeing others mainly friends. Sometimes they start smoking just because they think that because they are men they should smoke. This does lead to an adiction which is very hard to get over.
Try a reverse psychology. Tell your boyfriend to stop smoking or else you will start smoking too. If he doesn't believe then just show him that you mean business. I he really loves you and cares for you he will do his best to stop smoking at once.
@beachstarz (1092)
• United States
20 May 09
I might not agree with what they do , but don't dislike or hate them . I have been a smoker for more then 30 years , I have not had a puff in 55 days and counting . I would hate to think that someone hated me 56 days ago , but they like me today , only because I don't light up anymore . That seems pretty shallow to me . Smoking is a real hard habit to get rid of . You can't trick people into quiting, or make them quit . They have to see that it isn't working for them anymore. They have to reach a point where they feel they have to end the habit . All the preaching in the world won't make them quit, and if it does , they will end up going back to it. My husband still smokes . I would love him to stop . I would love to never smell smoke in our house again. I understand that he is not at his quiting point yet . Hopefully he will get there before he ends up ruining his lungs forever. I can't make the choice for him , and I'm not going to dislike him
because of his smoking ..Smoking don't make him a bad guy , it only makes him a guy with a weekness . Alot of wonderful people smoke , people who would give you the shirt off their backs , so don't hate them because of it , hate the activity
not the person .
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@GioBuffon (119)
• Canada
20 May 09
Smoking is a bad thing and we all know it. Some people just can't stop because they started at a very young age and they're just too addicted. They usually do it to take the stress away from work or other cases. There's also a lot of people that have smoked their entire life but didn't die. That's just a random case in a thousand.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
20 May 09
Does he smoke in front of you or in the house. If so he is not only killing himself but also you. It's a horrible disgusting habit. I don't understand people that smoke. I could understand back in the day when people didn't know better. We are in the year of 2009 and we are suppose to learn from mistakes of the past. I don't believe anyone who smokes in this day and age are smart people at all. If they were they wouldn't be smoking. I dated a man who smoked and I made him smoke outside the house no matter the weather. In 2001 he finally went for acpuncture and he quit. After a month or so when he smelt someone elses smoke he would complain and said to me how did you even kiss me with that smell. They don't realize how bad it is till they quit.
@JUNEWESLEY (19)
• China
20 May 09
I was thinking that why so many people addicted to smoke, unlucky, my boyfriend is also a chain smoker. Originally, i thought it is cool and handsome for a man to smoke, but now, although their look still handsome, the smell i can not endure it. And i try to persuade to give up it, but i failed to. he told the reason as you mentioned above and state that smoke is only bad habbit he had. The ending is i gave up to persuade him i/o he gave up smoking initiatively. But he will manage to smoke away from me.
@rselga (38)
• Philippines
20 May 09
smoking is not for also for the guys...as experience in a call center environment...most of us do smoke...only in our break time...in a way get out our boredom in working...smoking is one our past time with my friends while do chitchats...it also make me fell ok when i got stress...you cant tell a person to stop what he/she already used to... just let them make a step to change...the realization is always in the last part...in time...in time..in time...
@Mitchell12783 (40)
• United States
20 May 09
See there is only 2 things you have control over in this world (unless you have small children) that is YOUR actions and YOUR decisions. There is a good chance that you might be able to influence others, but in reality its all up to them..:)
