Birthday Presents to Boyfriend's Parent?

United States
May 19, 2009 11:56pm CST
A few months ago I ended a relationship that had lasted over 2 years so at that point it was easy for me to sign the birthday cards and have something in the gift from me as well, but since I've been been dating again I'm not sure at what point would it be the best for me to start adding my name into the gifts again. His mom's birthday is coming up in a few weeks and we've been debating back and forth whether or not I just need to wish her a happy birthday or should I go out, pick out a card and a gift with it and have it combined to be by the both of us. So what to do...?
3 responses
@olydove (1209)
• United States
20 May 09
If it's just been a few months like 2-4 months then I suggest buying a card and gift separate but maybe wrapping them in the same box with his. If it's been more than 6 months then I'd say it's pretty much safe to combine. It all depends really on how close you are to his parents, what kind of relationship you have built with them. If you've only met them say once or twice and not really had a chance to get to know one another then I would go ahead and buy it separate because it shows you took the extra time and effort on your part to let them know you care. Then again you could do that all the way through instead of combined as well but either way it's very kind of you to think of his parents and want to do something special for them. Good luck to you and happy mylotting :)
• United States
20 May 09
I think its going to be difficult trying to decide all these things since my boyfriend never brought a girlfriend home before so therefore I'm something new for his parents completely. I've only met them a few times because we've been at school but since I'm home for the summer I'm going to test the waters and see how they react to me and how close they get to me. His brother has a graduation coming up and we're combining for that since his brother and me connected really quickly and are constantly talking to each other online and what not so it works out really quick.
@olydove (1209)
• United States
20 May 09
I see, well it sounds like an interesting challenge lol! I think for now your best bet is to find his mom something simple not to expensive or fancy, yet special enough to let her know you are thinking of her. I'm sure wrapping it in the same package would be fine but as far as a combined present I would wait on that for a couple months. Yeah I sending the brother a combined present is ok since you've already bonded,.. plus well we all know siblings are different than parents anyhow :) Do you have any idea of what his mom likes, maybe a hobbie she has?
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
21 May 09
I think your "obligation" begins after you have been introduced as the girlfriend :) Anything earlier than that, I think is too early to be giving gifts. I figured that out when I started to feel like I had to give gifts or to contribute to an "our" gift :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@pink_lady (361)
• Philippines
20 May 09
Hi there, I think it depends both of you. In my case, I think I have given gifts to my boyfriends parents during Christmas Season only. Birthday's, I don't remember any gift that I have given them. But since I was married with their son, I have given them presents during their birthdays and Christmas Holidays. ;o)