does jealousy also means insecurity?

@cainam (493)
Philippines
May 21, 2009 3:37am CST
i can get easily jealous when my boyfriend is looking to other girls. i am even jealous of his friends, the worst part is i'm jealous even to his guy friends.it is really hard to be like this. maybe if only i have self confidence i will not get jealous easily..i'm almost like a paranoid.am i insecured or just too possesive? i just don't know. very confusing.
5 responses
@rmuxagirl (7570)
• United States
22 May 09
I think it is a combination of being insecure and too possesive. You are jealous of his guy friends. That is not a good thing and cause problems for the two of you. Being insecure is one thing, that is something you can deal with with him. Let him know you feel a little insecure and ask how you can be less so with him. What I did with my boyfriend is I made myself vulernable to him. I told him things to show I trust him. he has girls that are friends, but they don't bother me because he appreciates what I told him. I talk to him about what I feel and my fears and he reassures me. Talk to your guy about some of it.
• Philippines
22 May 09
a little jealousy won't hurt.too much is not healthy.it's a sign of insecurity and distrust.maybe you should think about your relationship.is your bf purposely making things that make you jealous?does he value his friends over you?has anything happened in your life that made you feel insecure?
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Jealousy isn't. Excessive and Uncontrolled Jealousy especially those that are not based on anything -- it all spells insecurity. It's not healthy. It's not good for the relationship. It will only driver one's partner away.
@vivianchen (2649)
• China
21 May 09
Hi Cainam, I do think that the reason you get jealousy so early is that you love your boyfriend and care about him too much. That is not a good sign. If that cause most of the fights between you and him, you need to look into yourself. I do think that has to do with the incecurity that you felt inside you. My suggestion will be, try to get in touch with your friend, trust your boyfriend, give him so space, he will love you more by that. Just trust him! You can do it.
• Philippines
21 May 09
if you trust your boyfriend no need to be jealous but of course it's just but natural for us to have this feeling. as long as you know that your boyfriend loves you then no need to worry just be friendly with his friends too and join them when they go out