Overseas relations
@sally04160217 (54)
China
May 22, 2009 1:31am CST
In my last job, I met a Belgian man. I served as his interpretor. Then almost without any sign, we fell in love. He is very nice to me and he can always surprise me with his profound knowledge and rich experience. But what worries us is our age difference, a 20-year age difference. My parents won't allow me to marry him although he never gets married. Now I have quited my job( not because of our relations)but we still keep in touch by everyday emails and calls and we meet every weekend. But I know he will go back to Belgium someday. And I don't know how we can or whether we should continue this relations.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
22 May 09
When I was on my trip around the world I met a wonderful man in Australia and we began dating. We got married in my home country and had a baby son. I think my husband missed the hot weather he was used to in Queensland. He was far away his home land and it was an expensive flight away. Nowadays communication when apart is so much easier with email and mobile phones. Letters from England to Australia and vice versa took about one week in those days. Sadly we did get divorced.
I think age is not so relevant. I know that being compatible matters far more. Love is amazing thing that can make people want to get married. I think that you should speak to your parents and explain how much the man means to you. It is possible to have a long distance relationship for now and come together at a convenient time in the future. Good luck.
@sally04160217 (54)
• China
22 May 09
Thank you for sharing me your own experience.
Love is amazing but reality can be cruel sometimes. As I said, here in China it is still traditonal in some aspect. I know clearly that if I speak to my parents I would definately get their objection and even lost their love which is too expensive that I simply don't think I can affort.
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
22 May 09
Marriage is the collaboration of the many differences. So it seems the difference between age and citizenship, is not a serious problem. Do it according to your conscience (not your feeling!).
You determine the fate of you, not other people!
Submit your plans, agree that there are certain and do not agree.
Respond with a polite and tactful.
@sally04160217 (54)
• China
22 May 09
Sometimes I just wonder if we could really overcome all the differences, age difference, culture difference, interest difference...
Here, China, it is still a comparatively traditional country and I know that all would be against our relations. Our marriage would mean that I would lose all my relatives and even friends.
It seems that not only me myself determines my fate,unfortunately.
