Should I move on???
By liuqian
@liuqian (476)
China
May 23, 2009 7:43am CST
I just passed my 22th birthday.Yea,it's been 22 years that i live in the world.So fast,and i just didn't notice that.My friends said it seemed that we didn't live a young life and already be old.haha,sounds a little negative:S
What confused me is that i still have no boyfriend in these years!Is it unnormal???maybe my friends thought me as a weird girl:( And i did feel lonely sometimes.I have to say i have many boy friends,and they are really nice to me.and some guys asked me to be his girlfriend.But,i turned them down,i don't know why, i just have no feeling to them.And the guy i only have feeling now is away from me.We had good time together. i thought he wanted me to be his girlfriend(acturally i think he was),but he said nothing.So i derectly said to him,but..he said he just took me as normal friend.i cann't accept this and may said something hurt.then he didn't talk to me anymore.I ruined our relationships.If i didn't say anything,we can be good friends still now.but now everything changed.I haven't seen him almost for a year.I don't know where he is and whether he has girlfriend now.I really wanna know his news,but afraid to know.I still miss him everyday.But now it seems impossible that we get together.He may forget me and live a new life now.Should i forget the past and move on???
Some guy loves me but when i with him,i always thought the one before.I feel uncomfortable and sorry for him.Am i sick?
Should i forget the past and begin a new life?
how many times will one fall in love for a life time? just once,or many time?I'm really confused...:s
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4 responses
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
23 May 09
Oh! Im sorry to hear that. You really shouldnt beat yourself up about it. Maybe you can just accept the past and make it a valuable learning experience that made you wiser and stronger for the next relationship to come.
Im not really good with these kinds of things, since I also have not had a relationship all of my life.
Well, there's no other way to move but 'forward' right?^_^ Goodluck!
You're welcome. Im glad to have helped you somehow. Take care always. Love lots.^_^
@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
24 May 09
belated happy birthday liuqian. cheers!
the world doesn't revolve to a single person only, but i do understand your situation cause i had been into that kind of a setup before also, but the thing is, she is now happily married and we are still the best of friend. she is my best friend actually and yes, my world revolve around her during those times that we are together. it seems that no other woman exists on Earth besides her.
i was afraid to tell her before about my feelings towards her, i thought that after i told her she might keep a distance to me or i might just mess with our friendship but the thing happened is she accepted my feelings but she said that she can't return the same feelings. we still remain the best of friends. which is a good thing, i had confess something that was lurking deep inside me and still didn't lost my best friend in the process.
the hardest thing about your situation is, you don't have anymore communication on him, and worst you are missing him so much. try to move on, make a new start, but never let go of your memories together cause as i find your story, those where the happiest days of your life. don't close your door for another love for a different guy, you'll never know that the next guy that your going to meet would be the guy that your going to spend the rest of your life. be happy and enjoy life.
the hardest thing about your situation is, you don't have anymore communication on him, and worst you are missing him so much. try to move on, make a new start, but never let go of your memories together cause as i find your story, those where the happiest days of your life. don't close your door for another love for a different guy, you'll never know that the next guy that your going to meet would be the guy that your going to spend the rest of your life. be happy and enjoy life.1 person likes this
@liuqian (476)
• China
24 May 09
Hi,rymebristol.Thanks for your words.I am glad to know that u and ur friend now are still keep in touch and remain friendships.That's a good story that i like.I wish that we could be like that too.Acturally,i thought this before.but he said we are friends and we talked as before,then he didn't contact me since then.Sometimes i thought maybe i am not so smart and cute,and no one likes me.That's a hard time for me.:)But now i know maybe it's not my fault.It's fine.I ll start a new life and live happy and happy as before.Thanks for ur suggestion.Take care,my friend.:)
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@sharon2009 (199)
• China
24 May 09
it's ok. don't take it so seriously. i am in a same situation , i don't care it.
@nirmalsaurabh (205)
• India
23 May 09
well dear its not a unnormal thing that you don't have boyfriend still,next thing don't trust guys easily, now move on to main thing..as you told that guy was your nice friend and you were feeling like you love him..you thought that if you have not told this he would be still with you as a good friend..but at least you can say that you have told every feeling of yours to him..next thing if the person is really care for you then he would have been come back or reply once..its only you who loved him,missed him,care for him for without any reason..
i know you are not feeling comfortable without him but try to seek positive aspects in life.i am not saying to forget him but not to remember him..make yourself strong enough to stand on your won decisions..let you chose how to live your life not anyone else..engage yourself in other works..there should minimum time for yourself to think about other things..don't regret you lose him say he lose you.. .
think you are happy as never before..
good luck..
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@liuqian (476)
• China
24 May 09
Hi,nirmalsaurabh.Thanks for ur response.Your words really gave me much encouragement.Now i am not as strong as u discribed,but i ll try to move on,find new things to do.I won't say i ll forget him and let him away from my brain forever.But,i ll live more happier and 'strong',:)Maybe later i ll find someone who fits me better.Time will tell,and give me an answer at last.Thanks again.And u are a really sweet friend.:)
