To have a 3rd?

Canada
May 25, 2009 12:42am CST
We have 2 beautiful happy children 1 girl age 6 snd 1 boy age 4. Should we have a 3rd, to date my husband and I have agreed that if we had a 3rd we certainly would brace this as a gift! We although have not planned for a 3rd. We have tried doing a list of pros and cons, but maybe this world is better suited to a family of 4. As far as travel, transportation housing the world seems biased to more than 2 kids. Are you a 3rd child, do you have 3 or more children. Please let me know your thoughts.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
I have a two year old son and a fourteen year old son. I am pregnant and due this month. So my older one was like an only child for twelve years. When my baby girl is born I will at last have a two year gap between my children. My sister has a twelve year old son, a nine year old son, a six year old daughter and a two year old daughter. She tells me having four children is ideal. She does have issues about how many of them can go out by car on a trip. You might have girls and boys clothes as well as baby equipment. Therefore having a third baby wouldn't be so expensive for you. Your children are good ages for you to think about having another. Good luck.
• Canada
7 Jun 09
Yes I have often thought maybe 4 is the way to go 2 siblings close in age on either side of the spectrum.
• United States
1 Jun 09
I am a 3rd child but my sisters were grown when I was born. I also have 3 kids. I wanted more than 2 kids and since hubby & I were both one of 3 it only seemed fitting plus we wanted to try for a boy and we lucked out #3 was a boy! I dunno if things are based on families of 2 kids mostly. Though I think if you have more than 2 you are considered to have a large family. If money and other things were different I'd like more kids, not Duggar large, but I'd like say 5-7 kids. But things are the way they are and I'm happy with my 3.
• Canada
1 Jun 09
Thank you for the response yes I would never be energetic enough to handle a Duggar sized family myself :)3 may be do able. Your input is appreciated.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
25 May 09
That is entirely up to you and your husband. My husband has wanted us to have a 3rd for a while now (though he doesn't push the issue as much as he used to). I think he has wanted us to have a 3rd child more so after my miscarriage back in 2005 (this would have been our 3rd baby). The miscarriage had the opposite effect on me. However, I have (reluctantly) agreed to try. It just hasn't happened yet. And if it doesn't happen that's okay too. We already have two beautiful boys (yes, I am biased LOL). Good luck in whatever you decide!
• Canada
7 Jun 09
Thanks for sharing, I like leaving it up to fate too!
• Indonesia
25 May 09
Yes, I am a 3rd child. I have a sister who is 8 years older than me, and a brother who is 2 years older than me. My sister has become the only child for so long and got all of my parents attentions. When I was born, she didn't want to lose that attentions and did all the naughtiness in the world to maintain the status quo :) She is a real handful, even after she becomes a grown-up. At the end, my parents left me to be taken care by my grandma. I'm glad she took care of me. Otherwise I would have used my sister as an example and it would be bad for my future. So, I think is better to have just 2 kids in the family.
• Canada
7 Jun 09
Good expert advice very close example as our eldest would be 7-8 years older if we chose to have a 3rd in the near future.