Nothing has changed

@jugsjugs (13045)
May 25, 2009 8:34pm CST
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone and you have nearly broke up,so they have then decided to work on the problems that are in the relationship.Then you find that after a year later things have got back to the same way again plus may be more problems.How let down would you feel knowing that a person has said that things will change and then it either stays the same or gets alot worse and if thats not bad enought someone else has made it worse still?
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• India
26 May 09
Yes such thing happened to me. We broke up after being in relationship for 2 years as some fundamental issue creeped in. After a break of 6 moths we again gave a try with a help of a mutual friend but I am sorry to say that with in 1 year we broke up again. This time personally me , wasnt feeling that bad, as we did tried to work out things seriously but some basic issue were too big for us to mend it.
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• United States
26 May 09
Relationships like this are just obsessions. They can also be called habits. From what I've seen people tend to stay in the kind of relationships you just described because they have become obsessed and have nothing else to do. Also, like I said, it becomes an unhealthy habit. You don't know what to do if the relationship should be over so you stay with each other because you guys are used to each other.
• United States
27 May 09
Hi jugs...I think I would chalk it up to a lesson learned becasue if they are that unacceptable of change now I don't see them changing anytime soon. It sounds to me like it would lead to a very boring life and no one wants that. To be stuck in the same rutr day after day would be the downfall of any relationship and there are too many people out there looking for change and adventure to tie yourself down to someone o=who is not looking for anything.. flutterby
• United States
26 May 09
i did that for 13 years nothing and i mean nothing ever changed well that's not entirely true it would change for a couple of months then right back to the same old crap. one day i just had enough and left. do you know what it was the best thing that i ever did in my life besides my children. i met my husband now who is wonderful, thoughtful, passionate, he treats me very very well, just think i owe it all to my ex for never changing in 13 years, if he wouldn't have changed i would have never left, and met the man i have now.
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