Can't solve myown
@gypsywoman344 (214)
United States
May 27, 2009 4:08am CST
i am really good at identifying and makin suggestion to help other people solve their problems. When it comes to myown , however; even if I can identify the problem I seem to be unable to implement the solutions I come up with. I've noticed this to be true of other problem solvers aswell. Why?
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5 responses
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
27 May 09
Um... because looking in the mirror is hard for most of us too do. And saying how to fix something is easy, doing it is a whole new ball of wax. Even if we step back and look at the issues, come up with a plan, it's seeing it to it's end that is hard.
Shoot it took me 12 years to leave a man I KNEW I couldn't fix or save.
@gypsywoman344 (214)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Even when I am emothinally envolved with the people, I can still detach like I can't for myself.. I look to friends for honest response and find most of them tell me what they want to hear. I really want straight forward, non judgemental, this is what I think (fact not necessarily emothional) answeres. I want intellectual answere's not personal. Does that make sense?
@redeemed15 (4)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
I believe its because when we're tryin to solve other problems, we can clearly see the picture on both sides, we can analyze the issue on both parties without being bias since we wont be affected on any decisions they'll make.. but when it comes to our own problems, it affects our feelings, what we want, how it shall affects us because there some problems with solutions that requires us to sacrifice something or do something we dont want to do at all...i hope it helps.. :D
@gypsywoman344 (214)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Yea, I know even thow I hate the idea. I am trying to be more straight forward now but the flip side of that is I sometimes seem more self-centered than I am.
@GardenGerty (157623)
• United States
27 May 09
First of all, shall we have a helpers anonymous organization? I am the same as you are about solutions.The problem with solving our own problems is that we are emotionally invested in them. They often serve a hidden purpose. If we solve them, get rid of them, then we have to face whatever we were trying to keep our distance from. For instance, I used to stay busy away from the home, so that I do not have to be at home. Now I stay busy "earning" on the computer, so I do not have to work on my house.
@gypsywoman344 (214)
• United States
7 Jun 09
That's very true. I think that's why I used to be even more of a fis-it person than I am today. Usually once you fix someone elses problem usually it backfires on you as their friend.
@roselynm1023 (950)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
being a good problem solver does not often mean that you cant solve problem by yourselves. i guess you can better solve your problem because you can see the totality of the situation. you will analyze, evaluate, access and study the situation or the problem before coming up into a solution. if you believe that you can solve the problems of other people you should be confident also that you can accurately solve your problem. 
@Tom728 (175)
• United States
11 Oct 09
You spend so much time thinking you can't do. Don't over think it. Get motivated.
