why cant she take the initiative??
By xparttime1
@xparttime1 (142)
India
May 27, 2009 6:29am CST
Why is that always a boy takes the initiative, he is the first to start love making? I feel when love is from both the side than why can't she start the process?
Sometimes I feel that I am doing something against her consent or against her will, she can't resist because she loves me. I guess a man would love to see his wife taking the start, everytime we pamper them, we love them-- they should also do the same thing. I guess they also have the same feeling, same emotions what we have-- I guess they also desire to make the start but something stops them. what????
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7 responses
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
28 May 09
The funny thing is alot of my guy friends will tell me the same thing that you have mentioned. With me being a woman I honestly couldn't tell you why girls/women are like that. I for one am not. I initiate as much as my fiance does. I don't think it's a chore or anything. But I want to.
@pupupd (1515)
• India
27 May 09
Yes it is true, if you both love each other then she should also sometimes take the initiative. When I was in a new relationship, I was quite shy to start, but as time passed and we are very comfortable with each other, even I take the initiative.
You should ask your partner directly about this and sort it out! She will understand your concern, dont worry :-)
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@sophie_dfuss (2365)
• Philippines
28 May 09
I am in a loving relationship with my bf. We love each other very much. There are times that I am the one who initiates love making especially in the morning. I would wake him up with my tender kisses on his body to wake him up either in the middle of the night or early in the morning. It also turns me on when my bf gives me a massage, even I am in a bad mood, I will be in a good mood for sure. I think you need to talk to your partner and ask her what is bothering her, I am sure that she will be able to open up her feelings or anything that is bothering her.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
28 May 09
That is a good thought to me that man like their woman to take initiative sometimes. I never take initiative or very rearely take initiative. I don't know why. I don't think 'making love' is a big issue and there are lots of other things that make me happy..
@med889 (5941)
•
27 May 09
I agree to you and this is why sometimes I take the first step to make love, i find it great as it is a good change to both of us and now we are so easy with each other that we don't feel the reserved or shy so either me and him, we both are very quick to start first.
@naushimp (33)
• India
28 May 09
Hi there,
Is it really true? May be in the teens. I don't think there is such a situation in adults. But then it depends on too many things. Like physical and mental conditions, state of mind, the place, the situations etc.In a secure place in a relaxed frame of mind with desire and passion I don't think there will be such problems
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
28 May 09
I agree with you. I make sure that I also make the first step in love making and not always wait for my partner to start it. But sometimes I'm afraid to do so because I might not get a response. It's especially difficult to initiate love making when my boyfriend is in a bad mood because I don't know if it would worsen his mood because of wrong timing or make him feel better.
