new places
By mommy101
@mommy101 (28)
May 27, 2009 4:08pm CST
when you first start a new job or new school do you ever feel really out of place with all the people around you? do you find it hard to warm up to people? I find myself a very non judgemental person and i warm up to people very quickly, sometimes those people dont always turn out to be theperson you thought! how do you tell a person that?
3 responses
@mocha_momo (212)
• United States
27 May 09
You tell them that very honestly and up front. You be blunt. I recently found myself in this situation, a good friend of mine, her man, and soon to be sons father, I really could not quite honestly stand him at first, then decided maybe he's not so bad, I spent more time with them together, and I pegged him all wrong. I told him this viewpoint I had on him. We talked about it. People appreciate people who are real. Bad or good news, it's the fact that it's one or the other, not a lie...bad or good, it's still the truth, people can accept the truth, more than we think.
@mocha_momo (212)
• United States
28 May 09
No lies make bigger problems in the long run. Being completely honest about everything makes no problems, why? Because when you don't lie you don't have to worry about what tracks you need to cover and who does or doesn't know what. If you are blunt and honest with everybody then one thing is for sure, your story is always consistent. You don't have to worry about one person telling another person another way, and having to explain everything after one person hears different than what you said. Cowards lie, beat around the bush, and butter up the truth. There is no need for that. If you can speak the truth, and what's on your mind, be prepared to be set in your ways, support it and back it up til the end. It's called believing in what you said, and standing by it. There is no complications, it's very simple.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 May 09
I am a very outgoing person. I am upfront and personal for the most part. However, I do not become close friends with people for a very long time. That kind of spares me from getting into tight places.
@cherry1102ph (105)
• Philippines
29 May 09
Yes, I always feel that I am out of place whenever I have a new job. I am an introvert person and I don't usually open up to other people. But I am trying to avoid that in order to get lots of friends now. But as time goes by, I use to relate to them from time to time.
