How much time do you spend on helping your child in study?
May 28, 2009 11:34am CST
My son is a Standard-I student. Here he has to study 2 languages eg,English and Hindi, mathematics, science, social science, drawing and some physical and mental exercises. He is too slow to finish his home works if he is left alone in study time.I have found that he wastes time in lookin around himself. The class teacher tells he does that at the class room too. If anybody in his class room is doing something other than the class work( eg, talking, sharpening the pencil, drinking water, asking something to the teacher etc. etc.) his notice goes there and sticks there. Thus he lags behind. While trying to make up the wasted time he makes mistakes- ommits some words or letter or number or dots or dashes etc. Another problem area is spelling. Horrible! I also feel that there are certain words(English) where the rules either contradict each other or breaks to the ground. So, he has to memorise most of the words which is a stupendous task for a 6+ child, isn't it? However, he is good at numbers thanks to abacus. Thus his progress at study table is often very poor. But, if my wife or myself stay by him at his study time and show him the correct ways and things he feels comfortable and speed improves.So, we have be with him all along his study time. I have found some parents who do their wards' home works too. Some others keep private tutors for their children. We have never done these and will not in future. Still being with him all along is also a edious daily experience. Having read my experiences what do you think about it? What do you do if you also have got a child of this age and standard?
29 May 09
take heart from my experience. My son is in std V and will be 10 this July…even now, he is best when I am sitting with him. He will do the work himself, but I have to sit with him. Even if I am in the kitchen, he can do his work diligently. Sometimes this becomes too much for me as I work too. 7pm to 10pm is our study time and I have been guiding him at home ever since he started schooling. Apart from being inattentive, he is very poor in maths which is mainly coz he gets distracted very easily (same like you child) and causes a lot of careless mistakes. He is wonderful in mental sums, but the moment he has to do them alone, he will make mistakes. Anyway some things that might help you…go slow with your child. Std I is too young to learn all those subjects, only language and maths should have been enough, but since the school has it you cant really help it. So, do push him to achieve excellence from this early age. Secondly, teach him English phonetically and not by spellings. Thirdly, don’t always sit by his side…I am already suffering for this. tell him to do something and keep an eye on him from the distance and talk to him when he seems distracted, but don sit beside him all the time. Fourthly, either one of you should guide him…each individual has their own methods of teaching and it may not always be a good idea of to have both the parents guiding the child from such a tender age. He might get confused between the both of you.
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29 May 09
Hi, sudipta, thanks a lot for responding so sincerely.But some confusion has cropped up.Once u told me to 'go slow' and afterward u told 'So do push him to ...' One thing i forgot to mention that while wife guides mainly in Hindi I do in Mathematics and English is of both of us. U r right that any one of us should guide him. But not possible because of time constraint.