is it ok to kiss on the first date?

@cainam (493)
Philippines
May 29, 2009 2:34am CST
i'm a filipina, a conservative type of filipina. that's why guys are not into me. but i hust want to know different views on this. do you kiss your date as soon as the first date? if not. when will be the appropriate time? or it really depends if you like the person? i've been to a date once and we did'nt kiss or even hold hands. i think i made him bored.
4 responses
• United States
2 Jun 09
I don't kiss on the first date. I think that is moving way to fast. I like to get to know the person real well. But I would have to go on more then one date to see what that person is all about. If he expected you to kiss him on the first date then he seems a tad pushy. And that wouldn't be good.
• United States
29 May 09
This is an age old question with no right or wrong answere. There are so many different kinds of kisses how can you answere yes or no. I kind of think that a good night kiss ,on the cheek or even a quick on the mouth. The key is you want fo say I want to see you again, but you also want to leave them wanting to learn more. If you don't think it's going anywhere except maybe as someone to hang with, then definetly not more than a peck on the cheek and a great big smile. Then next time (if there is a next time) clarify that you enjoy his/her company but you just want to hang out and nothing more. If they are worth it they will respect you for both alternatives. If they don't want to hang out or are too pushy- you don't need them.
@med889 (5958)
29 May 09
I remember my first date, it was near a waterfront, we had been friends before for more than 5 months and we were okay with conversation but still that day we both did not expect that we will be kissing each other, it just happened and we were very happy abput it. It depends on the feelings you have for the other and how you feel when you are with him. You should be feeling very well and at ease to be able to be by his side, so don't worry maybe next time you will feel much better with him, and you both can kiss too.
• United States
29 May 09
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Because you say that you think most guys are not into because you won't kiss, while I'm assuming other girls will. My advice to you, don't change. Don't do it just cause other people are. Maybe now guys aren't seeming appreciative of the fact that you're being as most call it, prude, but I guarantee you in just a couple years time, guys will be flaunting over you because of that exact characteristic standing out. That they can't compare you to every guy you've been, they can't name any body who's done anything with you, it's rare to find a girl like that, who didn't go on her hoe streak as I call it. Guys in the end are attracted to the girl who has respect for herself not to be lip smacking with every guy she meets. I'm not saying you shouldn't kiss on the first date. If you feel this incredible feeling, this just excitement, and almost tingling sensation in your chest when you're with this guy, and you're just happy, and you think to yourself, you can't remember the last time you were happy like this, like a kid waking up on his birthday...Kiss him! But if you're hesitant, instincts telling you otherwise, don't be afraid to say no, it'll make em chase you more, it'll make you everything but easy, and you don't want to be easy. If he was bored with you, he's a lame, cause he was only after one thing, only in it for some action, and not to get to know you. And you say you're filipina, I have some filipina friends, they are beautiful, their families, I'm convinced it just runs in the genes, so I believe you are just a gorgeous girl, don't let any guy take advantage of you, pressure you, or rush you. If all they want is a make out session, pass it on to the next girl.