How do you deal with marriage proposals?
By Maryam27
@Maryam27 (411)
Pakistan
May 29, 2009 2:03pm CST
Hi fellas,
How do you deal with marriage proposals every time when your parents or someone else in family break the news to you that you have a proposal from bla bla family. What do you do then? For me it was always an odd situation. I hated to hear it. Mostly because I don't knew them and even if I do, the thought of people coming to see you and you getting married to a stranger was always something to get me worried for days.
So how do you deal the situation? I have seen girls that take this thing as a pride and get really excited and happy about it. I don't know why but I can't do that. Not before and not even now when I have committed to someone.
So what will you do if you got an unwanted marriage proposal? Is saying "no" easy to you or you'll take time and say it the other way?
3 responses
@Archie0 (5636)
•
29 May 09
I think even i need some guidance over this.mariage proposals and a guy coming over to girls house to see her is a indian culture and has always been a biggest nightmare for me actually.i seriously dont like this thought.Luckily yet i havent got proposals more than one time.but i pray to god that he keeps this out of my part, i just cant handle this all.
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
30 May 09
I have to say Im glad that our culture allows us to pick our own husbands for love. We get to know who they are and what they are like and if we get along. I married after knowing my husband for 2 years and we have been married for 25 years now.
I guess I dont understand how you can marry someone without knowing him or loving him. I have read some on the custom and just really dont understand.
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I have to say I disagree it isnt luck, it is work sometimes even with someone that you really love. It takes wanting it to stay together and work to keep it together. Anyone that thinks different is living in a fairy tale.
We are still together because, yes, we do love each other but the main reason is because we worked at it.
@Maryam27 (411)
• Pakistan
2 Jun 09
I completely agree with you, I said you were lucky in a sense that you want to stay with your husband and even if you are working on your relationship continuosly, what if the other person lacks interest in you? What if he don't feel the same for you and the relationship between the two of you? :) What if he is not willing to work on it?
That's why I said you were lucky to have found someone who is willing to spend his life with you as you do :) thanks.
@roselynm1023 (950)
• Philippines
30 May 09
saying No is not hard for me especially if i dont like the man. marriage is a life long commitment. it is not as easy as ABC. if its the culture that dictates then i have to talk to my parents not to force marry the guy that i did not love. maybe the best option is to talk to the guy and let the relationship grow by starting to be friends and might be later on lead to marriage. it is so hard to commit without knowing who and what is the person.
