How would you react if a girl made the first move?

@n30wing (4771)
Philippines
May 30, 2009 4:56am CST
I still am a old fashion guy, it makes me turn off. I don't really like girls who are aggressive. I'll just tell her, I like the fact that you like me, but let me be the one to ask you out.Well I rather be honest with what I feel then just be pretending cause I don't want her to expect. How about you guys? Have a nice day to all of you!
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5 responses
• United States
30 May 09
I know this question is more so directed at guys. But speaking from a guys viewpoint I recently heard the other day I have a bit of input on this conversation. The guy I'm 'talking' to at the moment, was explaining what made me stand out to him, or more interested. And he approached me first, asked for my number, we exchanged them and went on about our nights, it was at a party. I called him the next day. And he admitted that since that first call, he was more intrigued, because I contacted him first. Most girls he said are either too shy, or too scared. But I was just looking at it as we exchanged numbers, at his idea, it was my invite to call, he made the first move, it was my turn to counteract. I don't dare ask if I was wrong, cause obviously for the situation I've come to be, I wasn't. Things seem to be working out good. SO from his viewpoint, it was attractive, that I was a "go getter" as he called it, and not scared to be shut down. My second boyfriend also, when we met, it was at a pool. His friends and mine, all of us had been flirting all day. When we all went to leave, our group of friends just stood staring at each other. I finally just walked up to him, in front of all of his friends, and mine, even my mom, was pulling up with the car, and asked for his digits. It turned out successful, we dated for awhile, but it was me who made the first move, maybe after all, we should keep things traditional, because it didn't last long doing things that way.
• Australia
30 May 09
I think what you did was fair enough in all respects. I mean, why does it matter if you make the first move or not? If you are attracted to someone then it would make sense to approach them right? So what you did was perfectly ok in another guy's opinion (me). Just because it didn't work out well for your second boyfriend doesnt mean it would have been any better if he had made his move on you first.
• United States
30 May 09
Yeah, you're right things probably wouldn't have turned out any different had he made the first move. But the fact that he didn't make the first move, I probably would have left that day, and nothing would have came of it. I can't say our entire time together was a waste, however, he did just want to hit it, and him not making a real move, should have been a clue to me, "he's just not that in to you", as it's being said all around.
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
Me too... I will be surprised but a lil bit happy knowing that somebody is eyeing on me. LOL though I will feel akward knowing that her eyes are all on me. But if I'll be asked out... I'll think not just twice but even more than a thousand times and may even suggest that I SHOULD BE THE ONE ASKING HER OUT! Hard to answer this question... hehehe
@gloamglozer (1285)
• Australia
30 May 09
I'm ok with the idea of a girl making the first move. Though, I haven't seen this happen much myself but there's no real reason I think a girl shouldn't if she likes someone. I think that if I were a girl then I'd want to make it be known to the guy that I have an interest for him. That's a lot harder to do if you only try to be noticed and make him like you.
@John4Christ (1598)
• India
30 May 09
To be honest it does feel good if a girl approaches you first......it definitely puts you on really high.......but it also depends on who proposes you......if you don't like that girl you will definitely not feel good about it.......it is sometimes very rare that a girl proposes, most of the time the guyz make the first move.......and specially if a girl whom you have been admiring since years comes up to you.......then nothing like it !!!! Nice Question......... Have a nice day !!!!!
@ratyz5 (7830)
• Philippines
30 May 09
Well, I think its alright, especially if it happens to be the girl that I like too. It wouldn't be difficult if I'd have a shot or not since she made the initial move that things might work out between us. I think I really don't mind whoever goes first, as long as things work out with those involved. I mean, if the other person doesn't like them back, that settles it, right? Be it a man or a woman, if the other person isn't interested, that would be it. However, when it comes to initiatives, I really do wonder how a woman would do so, would she also give flowers and chocolates or perhaps a stuff toy too? Hehehe, just kidding.. these days, people are becoming more open minded and with that also comes how they tolerate different opinions, preferences and ideas of other people.