Would you keep a secret from your love one sometimes?

United States
May 30, 2009 11:44am CST
Once my mom asked me to do a favor for her. She wants to send some money to her brother, my uncle, because he was in some financial problem lately. She doesn't want my father to know about it. I just asked my mom, why won't she just tell my father straight out, and tell him that she has to help my uncle. My mom said that she doesn't want another argument over money with my dad. So, it will be best keep it secret. Would you keep a secret from your love one for sake of good will?
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@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Yup, I would understand that. When our kids were much younger, we don't tell them about the tight pocket we were in...both me and my husband discussed the matter behind closed doors...there's really no need then to worry our children and cause unnecessary anxiety. Now that they're grown ups, there are very few infos we don't share to them. For my side, I don't usually reveal to my husband how much I'm earning 'coz there's really no need for it. Happily, he does not ask, so it suits us well. Of course, some real secrets in the past have not been discussed for goodwill's sake...
@tashakau (133)
• Canada
1 Jun 09
I would keep a secret especially if my brother or sister needed money. My family is very important to me and if my husband cannot understand that then he does not need to know. I do not enjoy arguing so if I can prevent an argument from happening, then I will keep secrets. I would not do this all the time, I would pick my battles. Peace of mind is better than having headaches!
@beamsey (427)
• Philippines
30 May 09
It's not that I keep secrets. It's just that I sometimes forget to tell them stuff especially when I think it's not such a big deal. Once, my partner found out I bumped into my ex days before. We ended up fighting because I didn't mention it, not even once. I didn't mean to hide it, I just totally forgot because it wasn't anything important. But in the case of your mom, if she's using her own money, I guess it's fine to keep it from your dad. But if your mom's going to get money from a joint account or something, it's wiser to ask your mom to tell your dad about it.