Should I invite my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend to our wedding?

@sexyposh (576)
Philippines
June 1, 2009 9:16am CST
My fiance and I are planning to get marry next year. We're inviting all of our relatives and friends. The thing is, his ex-girlfriend is from the same church we attend to. Just to be civilized, we sometimes have a little chat, she is in my list of friends in friendster and facebook but we're not that close. Do I have an excuse not to invite her? Need your opinion... Thanks!
4 responses
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
You can invite her verbally but don't give her a formal invitation. She'll get the hint. It is very awkward if she would attend your wedding.
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
I also imagined it, if I were in her shoes. But the thing is, we have a very small circle of friends... like her bestfriend is also my friend, I wish her to be there. If I invite her, then I should also invite the ex. Its also weird if the ex is the only person I did not invite in the church... hehe :) Thanks for the comment...
• Australia
2 Jun 09
You really don't have to invite her, unless your best friend is also her boyfriend and he brings her as his guest I wouldn't be feeling guilty. I'm sure she wouldn't expect you to invite her anyway. Remember it's your day... so do what makes you feel you want to do... and not what others might expect.
• United States
1 Jun 09
It depends. Is she a good friend or are you just being civil? Are you inviting all your church? How close was your fiance to her when they were dating? I would look at these things. If you are inviting all your church then yeah go ahead and invite her. If you are not and you are just being civil to her then you don't have too. Truthfully I don't care for my hubby's ex so I didn't want her to attend. Mainly because she would probably poison our punch or something. She caused a lot of trouble trying to make us misserable because she was unhappy with her own life. See if my ex showed up I wouldn't care because I feel nothing one way or the other for him. But everyone looks at things differently. If it doesn't bother then invite her but if it does then don't!
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
thanks for the response! somehow it enlightens me. maybe we're (or I'm) just overreacting with the issue... I'm just scared what will people think.. But hey... its my wedding... we should be happy and carefree...:)
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Wedding couple - Wedding, getting married, man and wife. My husband and I
Personally I do not think she would be offended if you did not invite her, in my opinion if I got an invite for an ex's wedding I would think it was an "in your face" kind of thing. I would refrain from sending one
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
ok.. thanks for your response... I also thought about it.. It would also be offensive on her part.. Maybe we're thinking just to civilize everything. We jus don't want to get married with someone who is bitter. Or maybe I'm just overreacting. Again, thanks for your response!
@qamarep (4448)
• Pakistan
19 Feb 10
if you do and introduce her to guests you will be seen as a good person