Would you let the love of your life pass you by?

India
June 2, 2009 1:31pm CST
If you loved someone and if the other person didn't know how you felt about them, would you stay quiet about it or would you tell them how you feel? What if the person trusts you a lot as a friend and your telling him/her how you felt about them would shatter that trust and ruin your friendship? Or, would you hold your feelings within you and continue to be to the other person just what he/she wants you to be to them?
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
2 Jun 09
The only way to find out the answer to your question is to tell your friend how you truly feel. I doubt that it would shatter the relationship, but even if it did, you will know you tried. I would never let love "pass me by." Life is too short and true love too rare to take that chance. Best of luck to you. Karen
• India
3 Jun 09
Do you feel that at times it sbetter to just let it be and enjoy the relationship, no matter what the other person wants, because you love them so much?
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@mnk202 (339)
• United States
3 Jun 09
It is very true that life is to short and true love is very rare these days. True friends or loved ones dont let someone go even if they dont have the same feelings. Everyone tries to make the right decision when the time is right.
• United States
4 Jun 09
At times, yes. I believe we should all pay careful attention to what our "gut instincts" tell us, and go with them. : ) That is the beauty here...you have choices. You get to decide. Karen
@mnk202 (339)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I have been in this situation before. I did come out and tell the person that I had much more feelings than friends, it was a feeling that I had never had before and I thought it was great because we were such awesome friends. I did find out he did not feel the same way but he did say I deserved the best and we had some problems and differences but after time we are able to talk once in a while and have a nice conversation and hang out now and then. It is not as close as it used to be but I am happy that its at least that over nothing at all and I am hoping the friendship grows to be much stronger again. I am one to voice my opinion anyways no matter what the outcome is because every one has the right to be heard.. The only way you will find anything out is to comeout and say something and see what the response is..Good luck..I had to come out and say something no matter the outcome and I was hurt at first but then grew to knew friends are better than nothing and because I love him I still want him in my life.
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• India
3 Jun 09
But don't you feel that the relationship was better earlier before you had told the other person how you felt? There would have been no barriers earlier to your friendship and now it will seem like there is always something.
@mnk202 (339)
• United States
3 Jun 09
You are right but it also can work both ways. If you are afraid to lose what you have now then I understand and I also understand if you want a chance to see if he feels the same way and maybe he does and you just dont know it yet. When the time is right you will make the right decision for yourself. My friendship was better before the talking joking and hanging out and then alot happened and alot of people got involved and now we talk every few weeks we have great conversation again and no its not like it used to be but I am hoping in time to get alittle closer again...It is not an easy decision to make and I also do not regret telling him how I honestly felt.