Are you a considerable kind and frank person with your friends?
By mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
Philippines
June 8, 2009 8:37pm CST
I have a friend that I considered one of my closest friends ( a couple). Well, am not really sure if the feeling is mutual or same way around. But for me I considered them special to me. Because of our closeness, sometimes we could never know, specially on our conversations, we can say something that would not be good for them to hear but unintentionally. That happened to me just a couple of days ago. I thought it was just okay since we ended our conversation happily.
I was just amazed on the following day the wife showed her unusual attitude towards me. I found out after a while that she meant it for me. I proved it after I smiled at her and she never smiled back at me...I felt awful and disgusted cause I never thought she could do that to me..that was the first time.
As I recalled our last conversation the other day, I realized I uttered words that for me, it was the reason why she showed me her protest of what she heard from me.
Anyway, I already an apology and it's up to her if she would accept and consider it.
Are you that kind of person with your close friends who unintentionally said something not good for you to hear? Please share...thanks
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5 responses
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
hahaha...sounds familiar daddy! hehehe
well sometimes i am also like that...being too close and being tactless! hehehe and thus without knowing we can actually hurt someone's feelings...but with real friends i think this is just a part of being friends...just like a spice! hehehe i think it only proves that you are really friends coz you can openly show them what and how you feel...and what is important is that we learn from these mistakes and we learn to ask apology and to forgive...and i hope this can make the friendship better and stronger...
i'm sure she will accept your apology coz you are her friend!
well sometimes i am also like that...being too close and being tactless! hehehe and thus without knowing we can actually hurt someone's feelings...but with real friends i think this is just a part of being friends...just like a spice! hehehe i think it only proves that you are really friends coz you can openly show them what and how you feel...and what is important is that we learn from these mistakes and we learn to ask apology and to forgive...and i hope this can make the friendship better and stronger...
i'm sure she will accept your apology coz you are her friend!@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
I almost forgot this topic since I posted this almost a month ago...I was having a hard time thinking to whom this topic for and how did I posted this one...now I already remember it when you responded too late..I don't know why...anyway, just to ease the feeling of awkwardness I posted this...everything just fine...I think you said it well...thanks...Cheers..have a nice day ahead...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Hello Martin,
When we say close,it can be short or long friendship.It doesnt matter how long we've been friends but it's the closeness of feelings,the sharing we had with our friends.An open relationship where we feel free to say whatever we wanted to say to that person,coz we knew very well that they will accept and understand what we wanted to say,could be it be positive or negative.
For me,when my friends whom i consider as close friends will ever say a word that may sounds "foul" or hurt me unintentionally,maybe i will ask my friend what she really meant,or,does she really mean it,or maybe she is just joking.
There are times that jokes hurt us becoz maybe we are not in the mood for fun.I better clear up things with my friends.
Frankness is being honest.And honesty will makes a friendship last longer.
Have a good day amigo
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
Well said baby...no comments on that..I am satisfied and contented of what you said..you must be a good and real friend...I appreciate it I hope you may consider me as one of your best...
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
hello jaiho!
i agree with you, but sometimes its not the words that can hurt but how they say it...and sometimes it is just an initial reaction to react that way, of course we are offended...but after a while we will come to think of it and sometimes its too late...but what's good is that real friends can always forgive and understand...
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
@Martin,
Thanks again for that mark amigo.Becoz i always believe that friendship doesn't need a long period of time knowing who are your true friends.
Friendships is somethings that we value,and i can prove that internet friends can be real friends too.
I had friends from India and we will talking thru net for more than 2 years now,actually i am waiting for their package,this is their second package from me and my kids since we met here on the net.His cousins family is staying here in the Philippnes and we were good friends too.
I had more than 10 filipina friends whom i met here on the net too,2 of them were from Ilocos region,1 from Catbalogan Samar,1 from pampanga,6 were living here in Manila,and we celebrated our ist year anniversay last May 2009,with one of our friends who just arrived from Taiwan.Those who were living in Ilocos and Samar travelled here in Manila just to met us in person,and now we will be seeing soon one of our friend a filipina who is working in Singapore too.
This coming August 8,2009 we will be having a triple bday celebration for our 3 internet friends and it will be held right here in my house.We had created and build a relationship so close more than we ever thought,knowing that we had only met each other's thru net.
I wrote too much my friend,but i just want to tell you that,it's really some connection of feelings that brought us here to build a friendship and that what i call...friendship that cannot be defined of.
I am waiting and wishing to met another one from Toledo also,actually she's the one who invited me here on mylot.
whew...have a good day always amigo...
@arcidy (5005)
• United States
9 Jun 09
Yeah im a pretty good person with my friends since I want them to be entertained when im with them so when there at my house I usally let them do what they want unless if I want to do something but I know there going to enjoy and Im not rude to my friends. But I do make fun of them but I make fun of all of my friends im an equal oportunist lol.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
30 Jul 09
LIke u say, it's unintentional, and thus they should not be blamed at all ^_^ Being frank is always much better than someone who pretends right?? BEcause that kind of fren will be much dangerous as they might back stab on us anytime
PLus, having frank or straight forward frenz is a good thing because they really mean what they say, and they dun put on a mask to face anybody.. IN a time like this, especially online as well, everybody is hidding behind a mask, pretending to be somebody wich they are not meant to be.. hehe
THus, i will prefer a fren, who's frank and open in their conversations ^_^
PLus, having frank or straight forward frenz is a good thing because they really mean what they say, and they dun put on a mask to face anybody.. IN a time like this, especially online as well, everybody is hidding behind a mask, pretending to be somebody wich they are not meant to be.. hehe
THus, i will prefer a fren, who's frank and open in their conversations ^_^ @mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
Yes..I think you're right. I also like that attitude, at least we are not pretentious...thanks for responding..
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@doggyhouz (548)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I'm very straight forward with my friends. It may sometimes come off as too aggressive to some people. That is why I have to keep a close eye for the way I start conversations. Because being frank as a first impression won't fly so well.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Yes that's what supposed to be, but sometimes during your merry conversations sometimes you become tackles, you never know you are already hurting somebody..Thanks for your share
