what do you think

divorce - divorce
United States
November 12, 2006 6:42am CST
what do you think about someone being seperated for 4 yrs and still legally married because the husband wont take parenting classes....do u think since he refuses, that the marriage should be finalized anyway or what....pls explain ur answer
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7 responses
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
29 Nov 06
Bunny2 - Bunny2
Actually, it's not a bad law. Wish it was enforced elsewhere. But what to do? You can't MAKE him do it, unless there is a legal way. He could hang ut for years when all you want to do is get on with your life. I think the marriage should be dissolved anyway. Good luck with it.
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• United States
20 Dec 06
thanks...have to wait for him but since i live in md and when i live here 6 months and have the money i can get it right away...thanks for ur comment
@Sailor (1161)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Make a Motion to the Family Court that you request either a Court Order for the ex to take the class and/or to grant the divorce because you have due diligence on your behalf. It is up to the State now to enforce THEIR laws.
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• United States
20 Dec 06
have to wait for him but since i live in md and when i live here 6 months and have the money i can get it right away....thanks for comment
@denax1 (709)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I think that if it's required by the state that the couple takes the classes in order to get divorced, I think the state should put in a stipulation that the people have only a certain amount of time to take the class or they will be held in contempt of court. It is awful that he refuses to take it after 4 years. It sounds like he is just doing it to spite you.
• United States
13 Nov 06
thank u so much u have a good point...thanks for ur response
@brokentia (10397)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Well said! I agree also that the court should give a expiration date as to when the class is taken. I would think that if the state requires such a class, there must be some type of fine print that can make him take it. Have you asked your lawyer what you can do?
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• United States
20 Dec 06
yes and thanks for ur comment...i have to wait for him but since i live in md and when i live here 6 months and have the money i can get it right away
@KarrieK (24)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I doubt that his refusal to take parenting classes is your only problem. If it is indeed that simple, and he still refuses to do it, it would seem that your marriage isn't as important to him as it is you. Good luck to you
• United States
13 Nov 06
well my marriage wasnt important to him because he cheated on me and i left him 15 times n went back 14 try to save our marriage n i wanted to go to counseling to save our marriage n he refused...n now with the court thing its like he holdin on to me but he should relize he blew the chance thanks for ur response
@shoreboy31 (1436)
• United States
12 Nov 06
Again, you know my opinion on this, but I do believe that since you reside in MD now, and since DE has cancelled those papers due to the statute of limitations, then you can file here in MD. The custody of course will still have to be contested in DE.
• United States
13 Nov 06
thanks again baby,thanks for ur response
@mansha (6301)
• India
12 Nov 06
Parenting is a huge responsibility and 4 years a long time to decide. No need to wait any longer. Let the other person go his way and start fresh yourself too.
• United States
12 Nov 06
ive let him go but he wont take the classes so we can get divorced...ive moved on with my life i just want him to let me go and go his way....thanks for ur response
• United States
12 Nov 06
Why does he have to take parenting classes? Was it ordered from a court? Did he do something bad to the kids? If I was married to someone who clearly showed they did not care enough about their children or parter to take the classes.. I would have divorced right away. If he did do something bad I never would have stayed married to him.
• United States
12 Nov 06
in the state of delaware its the law for 2 people to get divorced with a child under 18 then they have to take it...i took mine right away i want him to be free of my life...thanks for ur response