do you want to marry a man who's just like your father?

@cainam (493)
Philippines
June 10, 2009 3:58am CST
i appreciate my father more when i had my first boyfriend who's very irresponsible. he's not a good provider but he always find ways for us to finish our studies and give all our daily needs. i always tell my mother that she's lucky to have my father as his husband and she should appreciate him instead of nagging at him always.. i want to maryry a man who's just like my father,. a husband who will cry everytime i'm very ill and will take good care of our children. a man who will help me in house hold chores when i can no longer do everything on my own. a man who even makes wrong things at times, never leaves his family for another woman. a man just like my father.
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• United States
11 Jun 09
I did at one time marry someone that was almost like my father and I divorced him. My dad wasn't a person to beat on a women. But he would cheat on my mother and he drank every day. But my ex husband was a cheater,a drunk and an abuser. But know I would not want to marry a man like my father. Even though I still love my father. He still drinks everyday of his life.
• India
11 Jun 09
I like to marry a person who is just like my father because his character is good.My father will not scold my mom even if she did any mistake but he will make my mom understand that the wrong committed by her.Every girls dream is that to get a husband who loves her very much,who stand always in her side,to help in her difficult situation,to solve her problems etcc.I used to pray to the god that i want to marry a person who is just like my father.My prayer came to true that i got a person who is somewhat like my father.
@LadyBoss (253)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I would Not Want To marry a Man Like My Father Becuase It WOuld Just Be Like Marrying my Father... It just dosent seem right to me but thats just my opinion =] Id Rather Find My total oppisite But still Have Love for my Father
@amybrezik (2123)
• United States
11 Jun 09
My dad is awesome and cool too hang out with, but no I wouldn't wnt to marry someone like him, he is womanzier and a player.
@Elie6208 (58)
• United States
11 Jun 09
As much as I love my father, cause he is my father, I would never, and I mean never, marry someone like him. He is too over-protective, I was never allowed to date, go out with friends, have guy-friends, or even talk on the phone with a guy. I hated my teen life, he ruined it for me. Now im 20 so he can't say I can't date or whatever. I started dating when I was about 17, pretty sad, and it was still behind my dad's back. So yea, I think nobody would ever want to marry someone like my dad....except my mother I guess....haha?
@Ithink (7711)
• United States
11 Jun 09
Im married and have been for 25 years and he is nothing like my father and for that I love! My real father was/is a drunk, abusive and even tried to kill us more then once. Very violent man. My husband would do anything for me and shows me everyday that he loves and yes even adores me. He loves his kids and is a very hard worker. He doesnt drink much and he doesnt go out unless we go together. He loves his kids and has always stood behind all of us. He is an amazing man.
@flzmlady (419)
• China
11 Jun 09
i dont think so. my father is a good person,but there is something on him wich i can never agree with or appreciate.i really think he is a little weird,which is also my mom's thought.
@megumiart (3782)
• United States
10 Jun 09
My answer is no. It is true that we will be attracted to people who were like are parents when we grow up, because it get kind of wired in from childhood. My dad was somewhat bi-polar,violent at times and an alchoholic. I really don't wan to be in a relationship with a man like that.
@mmiceli (382)
10 Jun 09
My dad treats me like a princess but he doesn't really treat my mom that way. I love my boyfriend because he treats me the way my daddy treats me and then in every way I would like to see my father treat my mother.
@suzzy3 (8397)
10 Jun 09
Well it is lucky you have a good kind father.Don't forget your mothers got her own pressures ,you will understand when you mature a bit.My husband walks around like nothing is wrong when the whole world is falling apart.I am doing my nut and he just sits there.Woman feel things more than men.So i would like you to try to understand your mum a bit more.Any way my Dad was good and solid and still is.My husband is a good provider ,kind,wonderful Dad to all the kids.A good husband as well in many ways.I would not say anything about your Dad as I don't know him.Beleave me men are a real pain sometimes, although we love them and would never leave them.It is something you will realise as you get older.
@Jacobx (26)
10 Jun 09
I would not like this!
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
10 Jun 09
no i really dont my dad had a lot of problems when i was growing up. i love him dearley and he really is a good man but i could never go threw all of that again.
• United States
10 Jun 09
It is often say that women fall for men the remind them of their fathers. I believe this is true. My husband reminds me of my father in many ways. For most women the first male role model they have is their father so that is what we think all men should be like. Most women are luckily to find a man who reminds them of the fathers.
@cconrad (30)
• United States
10 Jun 09
Don't mind me, just adding an 'alternative' perspective ;-)... (yes, I am a guy) I don't get along too well with my father, and no, I wouldn't want to marry/date a guy who is just like him. I wouldn't date or marry any guy that looked/acted like he could be my father, for that matter. To the original poster, the things you mentioned aren't really fatherly qualities to me, so much as just good qualities that a person should have towards their significant other.
@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
No because my father is different from him that I want in my life. My father is responsible but sometimes I dont like his vices that makes him so strict in any case. When he is drunk he used to tackle things repeatedly that makes you irritating to hear. He is so strong and keeping you make sermons this and that. So I'm afraid to have this kind of activity.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
hello there cainam... yes i do want to find a somebody to marry...hmm... maybe not as like as my father because he is a one and only for me... but what i want is similar to him.... specially in acts.... a God fearing person, loving, good provider, sweet, thoughtful, a good friend, a husband and father to my children.... and a lot more...i think there are still a lot of words that to describe my father... well i do hope to find someone similar to him... have a nice day ahead of you...
• China
10 Jun 09
Maybe i will. I love my father than every other male in the world,coz he give too much to me and our family.. My boyfriend could be not wise & responsible & warm-hearted, but my husband shuould do.... we will find the one due to the destiny...
@glesil_00 (1147)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Nice Topic. If i have to answer this topic's question i do not know because i had no chance to knew more about my father. I grew up without him and my grandfather stand as my father and my stepfather too. Thinking of male figures in my life, I'd rather say, if i can find this, i will marry a man just like my grandfather. He is a good provider, and hard working husband and father. He do not hit or shouted at my grandmother. He can keep here low voice when he is angry, and i love that because my grandmother find a way for him not to shout.(She gives a kiss and hug if he is angry, odd but sweet.) He is patience and understanding of the impulsiveness and spending of money of my grandmother. He is loving and caring to his grandchildren. I can say he is almost perfect person because he has the good traits that rare to find, and I'm doubting that i can find this man in the future. Maybe there are, but not easy to find.
@zhdy89 (304)
• China
10 Jun 09
I have ever want to marry a man who's just like my father,but in the end did not do so,I have not come across such a man so far.Let me marriage has gone through a subconscious man did not want to grow up,I always wanted to take care of him everywhere,even if it was in my illness,and even after giving birth of our son...so I left home with my son.I still hope to encounter a man who's just like my father in the dream,Gary Coull,a good whole-hearted husband,a loving father.Maybe it is just a dream...
@med889 (5958)
10 Jun 09
My boyfriend is like my father in many ways and I prefer him to be like that. I had known boys before him and they were either too rude or very irresponsible so I have chosen my boyfriend to be my life partner because firstly he is so responsible toward me like my father and then he is very mature, honest and faithful like my dad. He helps me in daily works and encourages me to go in a right direction.