Sorry seems to be the hardest word

@kun2349 (23475)
Singapore
June 10, 2009 11:57am CST
Isn't that the case?? How many times have we not say it when it matters the most??Even when there are times we are forgiven without saying sorry, do we really feel good?? If not, then why cant we just say the word 'sorry'?? When there's a chance presented to us, we often lack courage to say the magic word, and it's quite understandable, due to ego or pride.. BUt when the chance is completely gone, all the more we lack the courage to say it, and why?? I guess, sorry is not something to be taken lightly off, unlike saying 'i love u'.. Just ask yourself, how many times have we sincerely say 'sorry' to anybody as compared to saying 'i love u' ^_^
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
hehehee...well for me, i don't know. hehehe okay, when i made a mistake, example just a simple mistake of stepping on one's foot, accidentally bumping people...sorry comes easily on my mouth! hehehe and i always sorry for those situations! hehehe but...if the i committed something serious...like i hurt someone's feelings...sorry don't like to get out of my mouth!hahha...i like to say it but i feel like something is in my throat that hinders the words to come out...hehehe maybe its the feeling of guilt or maybe i am just shy in telling those words...i don't know. maybe we just need to accept it first and i guess it really needs so much courage to sincerely say that word... well i ask my self...myself says, i said sorry many many times...and just said i love you few times! hahaha
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
3 Aug 09
lol =D Well, u are not alone in the sense ^_^ MOst of us do apologize on those small matters, and sorry seems to come out from us, so easily.. But when it comes to admitting our mistakes or whatever, we tend to feel shy, and no matter how courageous one is, they will find it hard to say 'sorry'.. lol =D Maybe u are right, guilt does play a part in stopping us from saying the magic word I dunno how to explain it, but somehow i feel that guilt has got something to do with it.. lol =D Because u are someone who's full of love and that's why u need not say it as much as u are showing it.. lol =D
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
haha...its also maybe because 'sorry' is not really enough... i don't know. coz i remember when someone sinned on me...as in something that really breaks my heart...i feel like his sorry is not enough! hehehe and when i hear him saying sorry, what i want to do is slap his face or throw something on his face! hahaha coz even if he's sincere upon saying that...i feel like its really not enough! huh! and so that's also what i feel whenever i commit a big mistake...i feel like my sorry is not enough... actually i don't know if that's right...coz i remember my husband, when we are still bf/gf saying that i am a girl that is not sweet! hahaha coz i don't often say those sweet words and i don't also often do those sweet things! hehehe
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
4 Aug 09
haha =D Sometimes a simple sorry might not really be enough, but still we should say it as we are the ones causing it.. No matter what, saying sorry is a way of admitting to our mistakes, rather than keeping quiet right?? hehe Though sorry at that time might not be able to apppease us at that time, but once we have cooled down, we will start to accept it, if they are really sincere on their apology ^_^ Maybe u are not too used to being sweet?? oR rather, your husband is used to be being pampered on sweetness by his exes?? lol =D
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
It is easy for me to say sorry to other people like an stranger but to those closer to me. It is very hard for me as most of the times I could not utter the words as it takes days for me to whisper or to say it unless i really meant my sincerest apology comes from my hearts. There are times it takes longer to say unless I know I am not the guilty one as I wait for the other person to be the one to say the word sorry, unless I really miss her/him that I even could not last an hour without greeting her/him. My weakness just a smile then a tender hug and loving words it could melted my anger and reconciliation is an instant! Then, everything comes back to normal again just like the first time..Then, saying sorry for me is useless and nothing if it is not sincere it just like a words which lost its magic unless I truly feel it. Though, my way to say sorry most of the times is really noticeable from my action though the utterance of sorry is rarely heard from me. As it say action speak louder than words which is very true most of the times. Thus, hearing sorry is also fine when it is really meant too with no mask of deception and under the guise of trickery...
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
10 Dec 09
Seems like saying sorry to the one closest to us, will always be difficult.. hehe ^_^ I think it's just some kind of barrier between and we might even have taken them for granted to the extend of expecting to be forgiven easily?? hehe ^_^ I guess most gal are like u, just a simple hug and a quick acknowledgement of wrong doing by the other party, will be more than enough to melt u away ^_^ Thus, woman, in fact are easy to please, in certain extend .. hehe ^_^
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
Yup, and it even harder to say it when both engage in a heated arguments with lots of insult with direct assault on the personality..it really takes time to heal the pain and couple with much pride..it takes time to forgive and forget... unless I am the guilty one, then I am going to give up my pride... but if the other person are involve and he sense it then he should be the one to make the first move to apologize... Of course that is the weakness of most girls, which is often abuses as they are quick to forgive and forget thus the other party keep on abusing their sensitivity... easy to please mostly apply to those who are not a thinker, but very hard to pass on to those sensitive thinker as well... who often find a questionable details in every arguments...
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
16 Dec 09
YEah, good for u then ^_^ STand up for yourself, and dun be bullied ^_^
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
15 Jun 09
Bro. You are right. Sometimes the word sorry is not being said as often as I love you. I think people should be more forward into saying sorry. I'm a Klutz and I keep saying sorry the whole time. Even when someone bumps into me, instead of me bumping into that person, I'd still say sorry. Some say saying sorry often just defeats the purpose. For me, it's not. I feel a bit uplifted when someone says sorry. It shows their humble sides. Unless that person is a psycho killer and keeps saying sorry, I won't hesitate to accept 1,000 sorry being said to me.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
15 Jun 09
lol =D THough i'm not a person to say sorry easily, but i often say it in the wrong timing whereby i'm not in the fault at all.. lol =D Yeah, when sorry becomes too common from a particular person, it actually becomes quite worthless and unsincere as it does not mean anything to the person whom says it.. So, when we are at the receiving end, how good will we really feel?? I just think that i will just much worse than before.. lol =D Well, i'm different from u in this sense, as long as someone is willing to say sorry or feel guilty for their mis-doings, i will forgive them ^_^ haha =D
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
15 Jun 09
You have a kind heart, bro.. Alright, I'll try to change method. I can forgive, but cannot forget..how's that..
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
16 Jun 09
I forgive, i forget, i forgive, i forget.. lol =D This is what i seen from a chinese movie.. lol =D Well, forgiving is better than anything else in the world ^_^
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
hi kun! its been a long time. ^^ i heard this line before from a song... i just can't remember its title and the artist. but i liked that song and i believed in that phrase. well, i still believe in it. its really hard to say sorry. especially if you're really guilty. and most of the time, we say it but we don't mean it. we don't even say "i'm sorry". we just say "sorry" and i think it lacks the sincerity. i'm guilty of that. even with the simple things, like you accidentally hit someone, you say "oops, sorry" halfheartedly. and i don't know why. probably, we take the word for granted. i take it for granted. ^^;; so i try to be sincere most of the times, and i say it respectfully. ^^
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
13 Jun 09
Yeah, miss secret!!! U have been away from mylot for such a long long long long long time, u know!! I'm missing u so much from the day u went away.. hehe ^_^ How have u been and how's life for u?? So glad to see u again, especially when u are th first person in this post YEah, the whole phrase actually a song name, but i forgotten who's the actual singer too.. haha =D Yup, many of us have taken the word 'sorry' for granted and yet there are ple whom actually see it as a form of pride or even ego, by refusing to say it.. haha =D BUt then aagin, it take courage to say the word 'sorry' as well.. Because if we dun it in the right way or respectful way, we will be deemed as not being sincere, and thus causing something else to happen instead.. hehe ^_^
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
i'm doing fine thanks. ^^ well, at this moment that i'm writing this, my eyes are swollen because of allergies. i took a pain reliever this morning and this afternoon and it seemed like i'm allergic to it. ^^;; i hope it will be gone tomorrow morning coz i'll be going to work. but, all in all, i'm good. enjoying life as usual. i took off from myLot coz i've been busy and my interests just got wider. i've been spending my internet time on watching a lot of movies and Japanese dramas and animes. ^^;; and there's the thing with myLot not paying through moneybookers anymore. i had to get a paypal account but since i don't have a credit card, i can't verify it so i had to be sure i still can get my money even if my account is not verified. ^^
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
14 Jun 09
Did u eat eggs or egg related things?? hehe ^_^ U mean u are allergic to the cream as well?? IF so, i think it's better to change to other brands instead ^_^ Looks like u are quite busy with your new interest huh?? Anything new to share then?? hehe ^_^ What japanese dramas are u on now, as well as anime?? hehe ^_^ YEah, mylot is no longer paying thru moneybookers, which makes it harder for u too:( How about u give me your email?? So that i wont lose your contact for i do cherish u this fren ^_^
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• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
Those same title was used for a song bye blue
• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
Featuring elton john, nice topic, i think it's our
• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
Ego and pride that doesn't let us say it but when
• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
We dig deep inside of us then our courage does it
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
28 Apr 10
Hi Kun, This discussion is very timely for me (tho' I've noticed it was posted some 11 months ago) coz just a few hours ago, a friend told me to say sorry to someone else, because I had hurt her feelings. Okay, first off, that person (to whom I'm supposed to say sorry), isn't even that close to me, and we don't share anything that's emotional, or even superficial, but...I had hurt her feelings? I don't understand why I should say sorry to those I don't even know why I should. But I am very generous with saying sorry to those I genuinely believed I have offended, and I agree with you, it's really difficult to say sorry so I only do it when I mean it and when I feel that it's due that person.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
29 Apr 10
YEah, its' always hard to be saying sorry, when one does not really feel it, and also, when the other party is very close to us.. But in your case, it's someone u are not close to, and yet u had somehow managed to hurt her feelings?? How is that possible?? Even so, it's not your fault too, for u are just being frank??
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
it could only he hard if your "i'm sorry" is accompanied with pride., don't let your pride stand over your mistakes you should be sincere when saying this word. for me if someone will say sorry to me, i'm greatful and happy because he realize the thing he had done.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
27 Apr 10
YEah, it's better to say sorry when one has got the chance, as compared to losing the chance in the future, when one has got the courage ^_^
• India
9 Mar 10
Hello, Courage is not in question here. The sole thing that is responsible for such inability is our ego. You said it right. Ego prevents us from doing what is right. An inflated ego always forces us to fight for something which, deep inside we know, is wrong. Ego makes one vulnerable. I have once said something to an old friend. We don't hurt each other. You ego hurts you, mine hurts me. Though this is easier said than done, the very thought when completely realized and assimilated in one's life 90% of one's problems go away. Even our ego prevents us to confess to God. It compels us to be someone we are not. Our behavior becomes affected and forceful. Slowly we loose the genuine person we had inside us. These are the lines from one of my most favorite songs. Thanks for starting this interesting discussion. God bless you
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
9 Mar 10
Hello, getbiswa YEah, it's quite true from what u said ^_^ Things are often alot easier said, compared to doing it.. Just like we asking, what happens if we were in such situations etc.. We can give alot of perfect solutions, but when it comes to doing it, we kinda become helpless.. haha =D Nice to have u dropping by here ^_^
@munhozmib (3857)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
8 Aug 09
Hello there! Sorry seems to be a hard word for most of people. They cannot admit that they made such a mistake, and they feel humiliated if they have to say sorry. This doesn't apply to me. I can easily say sorry, and I will go and say if I have done something wrong. No matter to whom it is, I always say it if I did something wrong and need to apologize. Depending on what I did, I get really, really embarassed. But I do apologize. And I have to apologize a lot, because I'm usually doing things accidentaly, like one day, in a computer class... My computer had problems, and I was going to turn it down by pressing the stabilizer button. I did it, and, well, poof... I turned down the computer, but not the mine. I had turned down the computer of the girl that was sitting next to me. Oh, I felt so embarassed. I guess I turned purple. I feel ashamed when I remember it, but, well, it happened. What could I do? She was a friend, and it didn't get me into trouble, but I still felt so embarassed. I looked completely dumb. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
9 Aug 09
hehe ^_^ Well, that's good for u though!! At least u are not shy to say sorry, or even feel sorry, which is a good thing.. It makes u alot more approachable and friendly to those frenz around u too ^_^ Nice story u shared here, and it shows how nice a person u are as well!! I guess she wont blame u if there's nothing important she's doing at the very moment.. hehe
@faisai (1140)
• Hong Kong
15 Jun 09
I also had failed to say sorry for some instances but then I tell myself to take my responsibility and don't hesitate to get the blame if I am really wrong. The reason that I had failed to say sorry in the past is mainly because when somebody accused me of nothing doing something properly, I will react (with instinct rather than thinking) by fighting back immediately even though I am really the one to be blamed. This made me simply reject the magic word which I later found out how stupid I was. So, these days, I do it in the exact opposite way. When somebody accuse me of anything, I will take it first and ask myself is it I true that I am really doing it wrongly or miss the others' expectations. If the answer is yes, the magic word is always used.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
15 Jun 09
Yeah yeah, i guess most ple will react in the same way as u, especially when we have put in alot of effort in certain things, only be to accused of something else.. It's a natural instinct that u have, to fight back immediately.. Because if we dun, we might lose the chance even though we are not really at fault.. However, if it's really our fault, it's never too late to say sorry, for it shows that we do think as well ^_^ we do have a humble side of us, just that we are not thinking right earlier on ^_^