Would you stay in an unhappy marriage?

i can see that there is a big need for you to work on having enough self confidence and moral and spiritual strength. there is a need for us to fight for our rights and to fight for our righteous place on earth. i can also see that the reason for your being this way was the way that you were brought up by your parents and guardians from babyhood. i hope that you will not allow your son to grow up the way you did. he must have sufficient to stand on his own and also, for him to grow up to be a reliable person. you will need your son to stand by your side in the days to come. you should prepare him adequately to be able to face that fateful day. that fateful day will surely come years from now. the older he is when that day comes, the better for him. good luck unto you, dear friend.

would you stay in an unhappy marriage............ Hello Svenden, thanks for your response, I am very tired but I said to myself I will at least reply to the first comment then the rest I will try to get back to as soon as I can. First off congratulation on being able to walk out of that misery. I think that you are a very strong woman even though you may be lacking in a little bit of confidence. But the person right underneath your comment gave you some very good words of wisdom, particularly pertaining to your son. If she see a strong capable woman growing up he will take on your attitude. Lord knows it's not easy to walk out and when you are being beat down it takes extra courage and strength. But you made it out and you give other people hope. So keep on keeping on and and keep you head to the sky. I'm very proud of you and God bless you........... I think that we go through things in life so that we can help others out. One young girl was just asking the question if she should leave her home and all and get married to the man that she love to go live in his city. I told her to please reconsider because people change after they get married. She wrote back and thanked me and said that she was reconsidering her decision to leave. Tears rolled down my face because who knows what she might have been saved from. Only God. If a man really love you, he will be willing to meet you halfway and not try to have you feeling like a victim and alienating you once he's moved you someplace.....Good luck with your new life!I'm so happy 4 you and your son..........

Thank you both for your wonderful encouragement! Each day can has its stuggles but I fight to keep everything going, with support of my friends and a couple family members.. Taking a stand for myself seems rather, scarey, and somewhat disordering... But I am no longer allowing fear to control all of my life.. I want to be a good rolemodel for my son, and someone he can look up to when he gets older..

Would you stay in an unhappy marriage? Hello Chelsit, thanks for your response. Well I do believe that this will be the year that something will break a loose one way or the other. Take care and have a wonderful evening.....take confidence knowing that your point has been well taken. Happy mylot!

Hello triniadvelasco, thank you so much for sharing your story, I'm sure that a lot of women will be helped by reading about this. It's not everyday that we come across someone that's been married for this long and then at the end of the road decides to throw in the towel. I can understand hoping against hope because I was feeling like that myself the first 10 or 12 years into it. But now I"m starting to feel like I deserve better and there is no need to put up with this if I don't really have to. I do have children and both are boys, most of the time they side with him if there is a disagreement, so what do I have to hold on to. Mom says I should stay put if for no other reason than to worry the hell out of him but I'm not really that kind of person. I just want to live a happy life of peace and freedom. If someone new should happen to come along, that would be fine but I would have to think long and hard about it before I should ever decide to marry someone again. Good luck on your legal separation my friend and if you can see any reason worth keeping it together I would advise you to try to do it. But if there is no love, no respect, no mutual agreements over how you will live your life and if he think it's his way or no way at all. Then do what you feel you've got to do. There is no reason for a woman to stay anywhere if she is not happy. Well lack of money might be one logical reason. I guess that's the only reason why I've stayed this long. But that too can change and the best thing is to just try to find yourself some happiness if he's not willing to try. Take care dear friend, wishing you all the best.

Thanks a lot citychic It's ok , have a good sleep and a happy dreams sure we will be chatting soon , but you should be awake because it should last for a long time :D have a great time and happy weekend

Would you stay in an unhappy marriage? Hey YazEid, thanks for your response and for participating. I wanted to write you a longer reply because you surely deserve it but I'm so sleepy right now, I will be lucky if I can squeeze out a three liner, lols. Anyhow We'll chat again soon, take care and have a happy weekend, what's left of it. I will surely look for a happier life, not like I"m looking for greener pastures, just a little bit of happiness, that's all.......... take care for now. Talk back with you soon I hope!