Why boys always get blamed?

@sonusd (1548)
India
June 13, 2009 6:13am CST
I have seen that this is a common tendency among people if there is any breakup between two lover always boy gets blamed that he has changed his mind and left that girl, they never try to undedrstand that may be girl has any mistake or may be that girl has left that guy, most of the time boy get blamed because they are doing the things openly and they are very frank , I agree that some of the guy change their mind from one girl to other after some time but the same thing also done by some of girls they also leave guys after some day,but they never get blamed?
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@sugarlen (138)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
Hi sonusd! Don't think guys are the only ones blamed for failure in any relationship.. It just so happened that women are given more the prerogative to be understood and be wooed. what do you think?
• United States
14 Jun 09
It goes back to the day where most girls were taught they Had to have a man to be a real woman.And the assumtion that most men want to be free. So of course when the "perfect" couple breaks up, people assume it was the guy's fault.Some of the time it is wrong.Each couple is unique, so each break up is too.
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
When boys do get blamed, there is a reason why that happens. I do not think that you could just pin point the blame for no reason at all. Girls could also change their minds and be totally honest with the relationship. It is a two-way street. It is just statistics point out more to boys as the offender.
@sjvenden27 (1850)
• United States
13 Jun 09
Honesty it takes two to stay together and it takes two to break up.. If there is one partner is still hanging on, they do not consider they are broken up... When I got a divorce from my ex husband, most people would blame him for the actions that he did.. At the time I felt the same way.. But now its almost been a year later, and my mind set has totally changed.. We both had a part in the break up. There were things that I could have changed or did differently.. But I choice a different route... I guess that the reason most sit their and automatically assume its the guys fault and not the gals fault; there seems to be a huge pressure on guys to sit their and make their lady happy.. Regardless of what she expects or asks of the guy.. This society seems to feel like the guy failed his "duty" as a man.. I do not agree with the rest of society though..
• United States
13 Jun 09
Well with that being said;;Depending on the situation depends on who to be blame;;In mii relationship;;WhiCh has been on&+Off for a year&+9 months;;But eaCh break up has onlii lasted 5 minutes;;Never more then a whole daii;;I have broken up with him twiCe;;The first time I was young&+Stupid;;I needed to know how he reallii felt or if what he was tellin me was true;;We were together for a month&+I broke up with him;;He asked me baCc^ out that afternoon;;&+I said yes;;After that he broke up with me maiibii three times;;BeCause he had disCoverd feelings for other girls;;He would leave me to be with her;;Break up with her&+Come baCc^ to me beCause he didn't feel for her what he felt for me;;&+I exCepted him baCc^ everii time;;Then I had broken up with him a little bit after our 4th break up after the 6th month of our year;;beCause he was acting reallii werid;;&+distanCing his self from me&+I Could tell he wasn't sure rather he wanted to be w| me or a past Ex;;I asked him baCc^ out that daii;;He took me baCc^ three daiis later;;After he Cleared his mind;;&+He broke up with me again 2 weeks later;;This was like our 7th break up;;He said it was beCause we were fighting to muCh;;WhiCh we were but then that was jus another lie;;He wanted to date somebodii else;;He broke up with me at 12 that night;;We were baCc^ together bii 7 that morning;;We've baCc^ together sinCe;;We still talk about breakin up everii now&+Then;;&+He still disCover feelings for outher ChiCc^s but I believe he's starting to over power his self with realising that I told him this time if he Chose to trii things out with another chiCc^I wasn't Coming baCc^;;BeCause I was tired of rebounding for him;; So in some Case's it is the guii;;But girls do wrong jus as well;;
@ema1983 (51)
13 Jun 09
outside problems do contribute to breakups. my counsellor mentioned that some of my problems werent just down to a bully but because of where i lived- a small valley with one road in and out. plus its full of small minded ppl with nothing better to do but spread rumours
@ayis12 (544)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
Its really depends in the situation. Sometimes girls get blamed too. Without doing anything wrong.
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
There are many problems in this world and relationships contribute a lot to the problems. I don't know if this is true but it might be. I have not seen any studies on this issue. cheers!!!
@ema1983 (51)
13 Jun 09
boys dont always get blamed! I got the blame when my marriage broke down even tho it was my husband who cheated and subjected me to violence. It doesnt help much if u live in a close knit community. Ppl always twist the truth
@shibham (17025)
• India
13 Jun 09
u are wrong dear. in my experience, i have found some girls blammed. in love relation both can do anything wrong, don't think that people don't judge the reality. they judge but our society always try to save girls bcoz a blammed boy can survive easily in society but a girl can't. so we have to sacrifice ourselves. but not anytime. so take it easy friend