Do you exepct anything in return from your friends?

@faisai (1138)
Hong Kong
June 15, 2009 8:29am CST
I think most of us think that friends are important to us. And I do think that most us are willing to do a lot for our friends. But would you expect anything in return? For instance, your friend ask you a favor and you do whatever it takes to help him. So far so good. Then, you are in need of your friend just to find out that they aren't willing to go that far you have been for them. What do you think? Would you feel upset or would you think it is just ok because you are willing to give and don't ask for return?
1 response
• United States
15 Jun 09
This is a very interesting question. The truth of the matter is friends should be there for each other but it doesn't always happen like that. I have a best friend that I will do anything for and she will return the favor when it is needed. Though I have had many friends that were not as generous. I just ended a friendship because of something similar and don't think that I am vein please because I am far from it. My friend had hit a rough spot in life and needed help and I was more than happy to lend a helping hand. The problem was that helping hand became a crutch and an expectation. It really turned into a bad situation to where it started taking from my own family and when I said I can do no more he became very aggrevated and tried to use insults to make me feel bad for my decision. This tactic did not work for him and after we talked about the situation he calmed down and apologized and we left it alone. Now for two months I fed him supplied him with his household neccessities and even money for gas and such but when I needed to borrow twenty dollars for a few small odds and ends he refused flat out. This may seem selfish on my part but I never asked for him to pay back anything I did for him and I was willing to pay the money back in a couple of days. I think a true friend if they have should help when their friend is in need and that friend should return the favor when it is needed that is part of being a friend. It all just depends on how good of a friend you are. I really do think though you should not accept the favor if you are not willing to return it.